
Parenting 'Tweens (9-12) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of tweens (9 to 11 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
I think that family grief therapy would be a good idea, your children may try to shut themselves off into their own worlds and that is not healthy. You also need to stay healthy to care for your children.
My auntie hanged herself in 2005 and it is the suddenness of it all that hits so hard, her 3 children refused all therapy and are now not able to cope well, my uncle copes as best as he can but the family has fallen apart. My auntie was the glue that kept the whole extended family going. I keep in touch as much as I can, but I at times do not know what to say, I feel that my grief isn't as important - maybe it isn't.
You and your children need to get out how you all feel not lock it away.
Here is a link to a page to search for support groups, if it does not come out right, try the home page:
http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/#
http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewpage&page_id=FEE4D90C-A27B-456E-36DDF23261B4378D
Here's another couple of resources:
http://www.suicide.org/suicide-survivors-join-a-suicide-support-group.html
http://www.road2healing.com/
I hope you find a way to go on. I feel for you. It's a good thing that you reached out.