hi my name is lexi. I have a 10year old girl and 7 year old twins. Someone is always fighting around here. One thing I learned is put them in the same boat. Doesn't matter who started it or who finished it or who was worse. It took a few days for them to get the gist of what would happen but it worked!

I have fun with it. Make them sit on the couch and hold hands when they fight. While it is truly funny, it also works pretty well.

If they know that is the result every time they fight, it helps a little.

Also, try and work on anger management. What do you do when your sister calls you stupid, etc.

I have 8 children and 6 of them live with me, and you can guarentee atleast two of them will fight at least twice a day, it can get frustrating lol, if i catch them fighting i give them a punishment whoever was fighting gets the same but i give them one so they have to work together and do it, its works

When my children were that age they reacted well to an immediate time-out of 3 minutes. There was no question - the time out was coming and they were losing out.

I also have taken up the "gym teaching" philosophy ... the one teacher that no student wants to upset. Simply put - by trying to enjoy every moment with my children it became more of a loss for them to have time-outs ... they could lose attention and still have more than their friends get ...

So - increase your good times with them, if you can ... reading and board games are wonders!

Good luck!

I have a 12 year old boy and 11 year old girl who fight a lot too. My son is so mean to my daughter. I try to talk to my son about respecting his sister. I think it is a maturity thing. My daughter used to be very sweet and didn't let it bother her, but she won't take it any more. I think it has affected her friendships with HER friends. I hope things are getting better for you. I have good days and bad days with them.

I have 3 kids, 2 girls and a boy. They will fight over the most trivial things, especially the oldest two( my son is 13 and daughter is 11). So i put up a chart on the fridge and wrote on it some chores they can do around the house and the more they helped out the more they were rewarded. But if they used bad language or pushed and shoved one another, they were deprived of something they liked until they earned it back. , It was a good way to keep them occupied and organized.

Welcome, Anne!
My name is Monica. I am a step-mother to 7 year old triplets. I am glad you're here! :)