Oh no! I'm about to go through this in a few months - not looking forward to the jealous big sister! My two children will be 16 months apart!

My cousin's kids are 30 months apart and the older one was very jealous as well. I think it may just be normal since that's the first child and he/she is used to all the attention and now has to share with someone else. Her youngest is now 6 months old but I could still see hints of jealousy from the older one, although she says it's not as bad anymore. She just tries to make time for the older one, just the two of them. If she plays with the little one or kisses him or shows him any kind of affection, she does it to the older one as well so that he doesn't feel left out.

I certainly hope it gets better for you. I also hope it won't be too bad for me :-)

Tristan was 17mos when Max was born. Now he is 2.5 (almost) and Max is 11 months. Tristan does not like Max at all. From the get go Tristan wanted nothing to do with him. When Max cries, Tristan screams, upsetting Max even more. Just recently Tristan has started to HIT Max. Hard too. This has upset me to no end. At first, Max would cry. Now he just acts like it doesn't bother him. No matter how many times Tristan goes to his crib or to his chair, he still hits him.

Now for the shocker. Tristan has taken to giving kisses. He kisses me on the cheek every chance he gets. Two days ago, he kissed Max. Keeping my fingers crossed that Tristan is starting to like his little bro.

Good luck with your little one, and congratulations on your new baby!

mine are 12 months apart, and at first, he was fine with it---THEN, he realized the baby wasn't leaving, so he started trying to hit the baby, throw things at him, etc.......

Now they are 21 months and 9 months, and they play together--it's so cute! The little one laughs at eveything the big one does; it's fun to watch them together.

Good luck to you!!

Well its been a while but my oldest two are 16mos apart. i was petrified how my son may react. At first he was kind of stand offish but he would kiss her and touch her so gently. When I BF he always had to sit on my other lap this became hard as she got bigger and I don't have tiny babies! LOL My son I guess did really awesome he never did any of that. he never remebered being alone agter a few days its like to him she was always there. It was harder on me just juggling it all,. It does get easier tho so hang in there. They are 5 and 6 now! LOL

For me, the younger child is the jealous one. I'm not sure if it counts though- My niece stays with me for 12 hours a day during weekdays. I am careful not to be biased towards one or the other. They are both my girls and I love them very much. Em has a fit if I show my own daughter attention when she is looking. We're trying to get past a very difficult stage- Nina is hitting 2's and Em is still in high maintenance mode. They are 7 months apart.

Either one is upset, or the other is. Sometimes, they have their bad days together. There doesn't seem to be much of a break- it can be a bit hectic. Try to get some mommy time in so that you can be relaxed and handle the situation to your best ability. If they are not letting you take a break, separate them into different rooms and give them some quiet time. That's what helps me keep my sanity! :o)

((hugs to all of you moms here))
You're all doing great!

I have a question and wanted to ask here since a lot of moms with children close in age responded:

Did you buy a double stroller? If not, how did you deal with taking two small kids out at once? My DD isn't walking yet (13 months) and I'm due with another. They will be 16 months apart. I don't think DD is close to walking at all and don't know if she will be by then, so I'm sort of thinking that we're going to need a double stroller, but I don't want to get one if it's unnecessary. Someone I know told me that when her second was born, her first was already walking (they are about 2 years apart) so it really wasn't an issue and they didn't buy a double stroller. However, I'm not sure if it'll be an issue for us if the older one isn't walking yet. What do you all think? How did you all do it? Thanks in advance!

Lulu---my 2 are now 22 months and 10 months---when i go for a walk, i use the double baby trend jogger--if you like to walk, i reccomend getting one.
However, when they were 12 months and newborn, i used (actually I STILL use it when i go shopping) the baby trend sit and stand. you can put the infant seat in the front and the older child in the back. If it weren't for that stroller, I would never be able to go out to a store (the jogger is too wide). They sell it at TARGET for about $130.00.

My son's 17 mo and we're having another boy in November. My son's been walking since 10 mo, and he's a pretty good walker. But he won't walk very long distances. After about 100 ft or so he gets tired and I have to either carry him or put him in stroller. I think it takes a good long while for their legs to be strong enough so they can walk as long as an adult.

I definetly got a double stroller, my sons been walking since 11
months butttt he's still not at the point where he can walk up and
down steps alone, nor wuld he know not to leave my side....so he's def
in the stroller when we're out....I want to get the sit and stand
strolller someone mentioned tho, that's so light weight compared to a
double stroller, adn for a day that I'm just wit the nb and not my
toddler, it will be easy to take out....and light!

I'm glad to report that hell week was just the first week! My son has
gotten so much better thank god! He's still very curious, tries to
"help" but he doesn't know that he's too heavy for him, or he'll rub
his head to hard, grab his hands and feet and maybe pull him to much
but he's def coming around!!! Ty all for ur posts I appreciate it

Yes- double stroller is a MUST have. I got by for a few weeks with carrying my daughter in my arms while pushing the single stroller around. At nearly 2 years old, DD now weighs a ton! I don't drive anymore, so dragging both girls to the doctor's office for emergencies was draining. There was a time where Em was in to see the ped or LC 3-5 times a week. My arms felt like they were going to fall off!

The double stroller I have is linear, not side by side. There is also a chair under the handles for a toddler or older kid to hold on and sit. It doesn't have a seat belt, so I made one of my own with clips and straps. I won't touch a side by side stroller. A year ago I took DD in for a specialist at the hospital. A woman had a 3 yo and a 7 month old in a side by side. The 3 year old was tormenting her younger sister, poking her while sleeping, throwing bottles on her head, and pinching. I'd rather have the girls secluded and peaceful than put them through that!