Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
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My son recently met a boy from the neighborhood. He is into making videos, and placing them on a site called youtube. Well, today I just viewed the movies. And I am not at all happy. The child is only 13. He has a video that describes How to kill yourself? There are others, that I just don't feel are approiate for someone his age. I am going to discuss with my son the danger of all this. My question is this, should I confront his mother? Should I talk to the teen? The videos are on death and not one does not have cursing in it. It makes me wander.
dnjnm
Confront may not be the word, but I would have a discussion with his mother. Remember Columbine, and VATech? People say the warning signs were there, but no one ever put them together until it was too late. (OK except for 1 teacher noone would listen to).
eileenR
I plan on just informing her I don't want to sound to harsh, I just want her to know I care about the boy. I am worry, about his state of mind.
deleted_user
I think it would be best to discuss it with his mom, I bet she has no idea. Luckily your son has a good head on his shoulders and found the boy's behavior odd enough to bring it to your attention.
deleted_user
That is very disquieting to hear. Definitely have a conversation with the boys parents. We need to be vigilant because we don't want another Columbine or VA Tech.
deleted_user
contact the police, tell them about the clips, and that you know who the child is and that you are concerned.
jody0385
I think for now contacting the police is a bit harsh. Contact the mother in person and possibly invite her to your house and show her the videos. Maybe the two of you can come up with a good way of keeping in touch with what your two kids are doing. Maybe just the contact will be enough to stop it. When you bring it to your childs attention maybe you could suggest other things that they could place on you tube. If it continues or gets worse then contact police or someone with higher authority. Best of luck.
eileenR
Thanks to all who responded. I did talk to the mother. And she had no idea. The child has taken the clip off. And said it was meant to be funny. I explained to my son how I felt. And he thanked me. We are going to monitor it. And both keep an eye out on our sons.
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