Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
was very stressful in the beginning, she picked me up from work and was clearly intoxicated. I thought her cousin was too. But he wasn't thank goodness, because I could of got in a lot of trouble for them being intoxicated. She didn't really care that I was yelling at her. She told me some things that hurt me, but I knew she needed to say them. According to her I don't have any problems, I just hide behind my job, and pretend I have a perfect life. I remember saying the exact same thing with my parents when I was that age, its so crazy when you hear them say things like that and it takes you back to when you were that age. Saying the same thing.My daughter is 17 years old and a survivor of sex abuse. She is still yet there in victimization, hasn't really dealt with all her feelings. And pretty much at this time hates me for not being there for her when she was being abused. She thinks I don't take up enough for my children, her brother and sisters. In her mind because she stepped in there place every time Her brother and sister were being groomed by there dad, she layed her life down for them and I never because I was clueless about the abuse. I will never understand what she went through and she uses that to manipulate me. I hope one day there will be forgiveness from her, but I don't think that will be anytime soon. But she went back to Reno, she doesn't like it here. I don't blame her, I think there is too many reminders here for her. I think that being in a different place and with different people there and people she can trust to talk too. I think she is going to do good there.
I know I need to get some help for myself, and am getting around to it. I do things for myself, such as taking different kind of classes, exercising, walking, working. But I do need to go to counseling. I did for a while but I breezed through it like a good little lady. I think the counselor we have here on our reservation are not totally trained to take on the issues that most of us here face. There isn't enough training for them to push past the mask we put on so that we don't have to sit and talk to someone. you know what I mean.
And thank you for your words they have helped.
I know I should call her and open the door so we can talk. I have to work on my listening skills, when it come to my children.
I was brought up the child should be seen and not heard unless spoken to. And then we could say our piece. It was very strict when i was growing up. That was back in the day when abuse was not talked about. I still feel uncomforable talking about it. I think that they should just listen to what I say and be done with it. I forget that sometimes they have a voice.