Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
My son loves the game of football. It is what him and his dad shared, the most. Being in the middle school, he plays for the school. Well he is very athletic. He has always started. This year he is sitting the bench. Last game he got in for six plays. When He asked the coach why, He said you need to gain weight. You are to small. Well this has sent my son into "I HATE MY Size", everyone hates me because of my size. I have no friends. Etc. The problem is my son has always been a leader and now I see him getting mad at the world or should I say his size. SHould I call this coach and tell him, he shot the self esteem down to the bottom. I am afraid to call, because my son has him for a class. And I don't want to be one of those pushy parents. If it was a skill he could work harder. But size has no control. And he feels like he is failing his dad, who is in heaven. He promised him he would continue always with football. Nothen I say to him helps, he turns me off.
I would call the teacher/coach. Tell him that what he said did really hurt your son. He might not have put much thought in to it at all that what he said caused so much trouble. If anyone can fix this its him. Maybe he can talk to your son. Ask for his help. I dont know this man so I have no idea how he is or will act but that is what I would do.
take care hun. Hope I helped a little bit
Yes, I would call the teacher. I would just politely talk to him, but tell him how what he said has been affecting your son. Do it as non-threatening and keep your voice down. He might listen better. I agree with Leah..... See if you can ask for his help in maybe turning your sons self esteem around. And tell the coach, if he doesn't know, about how your son and his dad shared this bond, and how much it means to him. I don't know if it will help any. But its worth a shot.