Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group

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Momeo 03/20/2012

I have a 13 year old daughter. I divorced her dad a year and a half ago. She has now decided that I am a horrible person for divorcing him. I explained the issues we had and that I was not happy for at least 3 years before it happened. She said I wasn't supposed to be happy I was only there to nmake her happy. I did not raise her that way. She has now moved in with her dad and hates me. I have no idea what my ex is saying about me. Her dad lost his license for 10 years to DWI which is why I finally couldn't take it anymore. He drives still with her in the car and she has said he drinks and drives when she is there I'm so scared of what will happen but she refuses to talk to me anymore.

lexisgirl 03/20/2012

I'm sorry you are having trouble. What does your divorce decree state for where she should be? She is probably old enough to make a choice. We can't help what others say about us. My Ex has been dogging me to my son too. It is very frustrating. As for the drunk driving, I think the police would be interested to know he is still driving while drinking. And with a child in the car? If caught, he will probably never drive again!!

I hope things get better for you. You might want to visit a counselor to find a way to deal with it all. It can be overwhelming.

lexisgirl 03/22/2012

Hi Momeo. We haven't heard from you since your post. Are you okay? Have things worked themselves out at all?

lowen22 03/23/2012

dont take things your daughter says so personal. your job is to be her mother, not her friend, and she is going to not like you for it, but it will come around on its own, every daughter needs a mother, mine was not a good example,and we all always went back. she will come looking for you . and just be there, try to not look at it like it is you vs. your husband. just look at it like a mother, you also should keep her safe, he should not be driving with her if he does not have a liciense,, just do the right thing, keep to your guns. and say nothing bad about her father, believe me, she will remember that. .good luck

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