Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group

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babyrena 04/04/2013

ugh!!!! He was horseplaying. the principle says that it was horrible, and he was pretty appalled at what he saw.
The school he goes to is 15 miles one way, I barely make the gas to get to work for two weeks. I am so frustrated right now. I tried to call my SO and he says, hang on let me call you back.
So here I am wondering what to do. I have two options. 1 find gas to get him to school all week, or 2 he misses a week of school unexcused abscents.
I am going to see what I can do. I am so frustrated right now.

babyrena 04/04/2013

Well I called my SO and we decided we are going to pull him from school and send him away to a Native American Boarding school. I am getting in touch with our local Education department and I think this will help him improve.
It's hard being a native american and living on a reservation and having to deal with all that goes along with it. Then on top of that having an absent parent.
As far as being at home this week he will be doing chores and we have took away all privelages and we will be working with him and hopefully helping him overcome his obstacles in life.
I am so frustrated right now though

babyrena 04/04/2013

Well it's too late in the year to send him away to boarding school, there's only 8 more weeks left in school so I just have to wait until June to sign him up for a different school.
As for right now i am going to keep him from school, unexcused absence, and he will be working all week, cleaning the house, and going do other things with my SO.
I have been putting off sending him away because he doesn't want to go. But I believe this will be the best thing for him. I believe he will excel being in boarding school and also he will be more responsible for himself instead of always depending on me to take care of him.
haha! I know it's my job to take care of him, but what I am talking about is laundry, and dishes, and chores. He does none of it. He needs to learn to be self sufficient in so many areas. he is 15 years old and will be 16 this summer.
I miss the days when they were children and I was the only one that they listened too. I miss being there hero.

Thriver 04/08/2013

You should make sure he won't be truant for the 8 weeks. Can you sign up to homeschool him?

fotog 04/12/2013

Is there any way you could talk to the school and see if they would let him do something to make up for his behavior? Like writing an essay about why what he did on the bus was wrong, and how he understands why it bothered other people and he'll work hard at controlling his behavior, and if that isn't enough, then maybe do some extra work at school? Or do some volunteer work outside of school (though it would have to be near enough to your home to walk, I'm sure, so that might limit what's available). Otherwise, homeschool could be a good option for the rest of the school year :)

fotog 04/12/2013

Also, what about riding a bike to school and back for the next 2 weeks? I don't bike myself, so I have no idea if that is a reasonable distance. But if it is, that might be an option too. Oh... I just noticed that the date on your post is from a week or so ago. Well, then there is just one week to go :)

Bobby5000 04/18/2013

Or you can go to the superintendent, explain how this is impacting you and perhaps ask the bus driver is she would accept his apology.

babyrena 04/24/2013

update,
he missed the whole week of school, and end up getting straight F's for third semester.
He is back in schoo now. Hopefully learned his lesson. we will see. :/

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