Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
and she still thinks that its my responsibilty to take care of her. I went over to my aunts house. When I got there she asked if she could use some of my other daughters money so she could get diapers and wipes for my niece, who she voluntarily took for the evening. I told her no, that she needed to ask the mom and dad for help with those items. They needed to be responsible for those items. She told me there broke and the baby doesn't have any diapers and wipes. I told her, when I was struggling for diapers and wipes, I used cloth diapers, and a wash rag to hold them over until we could get some more. She then changed over to " you and everyone at your house is just talking about me, just get out of here and leave me alone" I told her she couldn't kick me out cause this house was her aunts house and my home too. Well she ended up pushing me out of the house and slamming the door in my face. It was humiliating and degrading to be treated like this in front of everyone, then get told I didn't pay enough attention to any of my children. I spent most of my time catering to her, because of all her problems through her teenage years. I would make plans to take my younger ones to do something and she would tell me no, you need to do this and we can do this for them instead. So all the plans would change to cater to her. Now she is 18 and still wanting the world to revolve around her. I have my children to take care of and she needs to take care of herself now. I don't know any suggestions about this one. I was told I am just a mean mother and never do anything for her, and don't take care of my children. Just my man. *hands up in the air* I feel like just throwing in the towel and saying heck with everyone. What would my family do if I just up and disappeared. I did once, just went on a weekend hideaway, and my family called and called and called. from my aunt clear down to my children, my sister, my friend, and if my animals could I bet you they would have. It was a glorious weekend. I wish I could do it again.
I think you'd better take it like she means it.
She's a grown woman now, on her own. Why take this treatment? you're a grown woman too. And being a grown woman is all about exercising your freedom and initiative while still being responsible.
It's OK to want to fall off the face of earth somedays. But I bet you don't need to. Just let her come to you, and don't react until she is respectful and treating you woman to woman.
Just my 2 cents.
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i wouldn't mind but this is the 3rd day this term and she's pretty close to failing. she is so lazy most of the time. but i don't clean her room anymore nor do i do her laundry. i will cook dinner but i don't wait on her hand and foot like she expects me to. she is always ordering me around, i either ignore her or i say "you have 2 legs, right". she gets pissed but she's starting to get the picture.
since she is not going to school today, i am hiding all the remotes. i'm more of a "tough love" kind of person. i can take a lot, but don't push me too far. i told both kids when you graduate from school, you WILL be working. i will not tolerate laziness and absolutely no babies in the house. i know it sounds mean but i have fibromyalgia and arthritis and i am waiting for the day that my life slows down so i can enjoy it.
i think i vented more than i helped and i'm sorry for that. but stay strong, know you are a good person and mother and although life is hard it doesn't mean you have to give up.