Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
Hey ya'll, so my 13yr daughter confided in me a year ago that she likes boys and girls, this is 100% fine with me but how does she KNOW? She told me and her dad that she wants to tell the world that she is bisexual, I do not have a problem at all with her finding herself, but I do have some concerns about the labeling. Now the reason for this is because my daughter has never been on a date or a bf/gf. She has never had a kiss, she doesnt like anyone but her close family to even hug her. I know that these feelings she is having are a normal part of finding yourself. I have explained that just because you find men and women attractive doesn't necessarily mean you are straight, bi or gay. I find woman beautiful and can be quite arousing when I have private time with my husband, and by no means am I anything but straight. My daughter doesnt dress or behave any certain way. It isnt like she is not able to express herself as she wants. I am just afraid that because it's so "normalized" to be anything but straight and a few of her friends are bi, she feels she is too. I am not about labels especially is she isnt 100% sure. I mean at least date, a guy, a girl, whatever. Have your first kiss from both and see how you feel. Am I wrong? How do I understand this better? Why does she need come out if she herself says she doesnt know for sure? TIA! ♡
There is a difference, most men who are not gay don't think about doing sexual things with other men. That said, more women might say, let's get together and share feelings rather than sleep with a guy.
I stumbled upon something while doing an internet search a few years ago. A study on women with PCOS (who on average have higher levels of testosterone than women without PCOS), found a larger percentage of them to be lesbian than their non-PCOS counterparts. So, my argument against labeling yourself and announcing your sexuality to the world as a teen would be that hormones are still changing drastically. The way you feel is related to those hormones, and could change, especially if there's an underlying medical condition.
I think is important to discuss the philosophical aspect of life and then narrow down to where is this comming from. Does she fell sexual desires? What are her dreams? How does she see her future? Kids are exposed to education in schools that is meant to help those few exceptions which were born differrently but somehow resonates with others as well. To make her fully understand what it means you should talk and have the right guidance on how before she starts experimenting. Some things cannot be taken back. Kids are not mature at this time and are super sensitive especially girls.