It is hard to offer any suggestions when we really don't know the situation. (Is daughter living with you? What sort of relationship do you have? Etc.) But if you are on speaking terms, it would seem that sitting down with your daughter and telling her how it felt when she forgot to wish you a happy mother's day might be a god thing to do.

If it makes you feel any better, my youngest son is 15 and he forgot about Mother's Day, too. :) My oldest son remembered - he gave me a auto racing themed ball cap or hat. I'm not really into cars at all, and I rarely ever wear hats but he is very into racing and he wears hats. lol

I think kids at this age tend to be very self-involved. They surely have their moments when they are thoughtful and caring, but much of the time the world revolves around them, in their own realities anyway.

Hopefully they will grow out of it. Your daughter won't be a self-absorbed 16 year old princess forever. :) Someday she might even have her own 16 year old, and only then will she probably begin to appreciate you, or whoever it is that is taking care of her now. :)

Perhaps it may help her appreciate the things you do and the money you give her if you refuse to do so? My kids appreciate when I say yes to things, but mostly because I'm usually saying no. I wish you luck - being considerate is a big step in maturation!

I think 16 and 17 must be like the eye of the storm. My son is 17 and he is awful to me 99.9% of the time. I don't give him money all he time and he does not have a license yet because my husband and I told him he needs to get a job before we let him send in his permit. There will be no car when he gets it unless he buys one on his own. I will let him use mine IF he learns how to speak to me in a way that makes me feel like doing him a favor. You are not alone and although you may be counting the reasons why it is your fault, it is not. Some kids just have a harder time maturing I think. But you should definitely consider her attitude before you hand her anything, give her her first introduction to the real world nobody else on the planet would be talked to like that and then generously hand her what she wanted. That is assuming that this is not just about Mother's Day....

I think you should spend more time with her. and then talk to her know what you feel about her. It's really hard if the relationship between you and your daughter get more serious. for any reason,she is still your kid...

Thanks for the replies. My daughter and I have a good relationshi . She lives with me we spend time. I attend all of her sporting and academic event . We talk everyday we joke we text . That is why it hurt so much.

Hello. I don't really belong to this group. My kids are grown and parents now themselves. But I had terrible trouble with my son. Seems no matter what I did, it didn't help. And my now EX was not supportive of me at all. He contributed to my son's demise as I call it. I would refuse to give him money, tell him to get a job, my ex would hand him more money than he asked for and the car. I was trying to teach him how to survive in the world, and my ex just contributed to the point his money he gave him was paying for drugs.

It was an ugly time in my life. I didn't like my son much either. He was awful and into everything bad. He ended up in jail and prison numerous times. My ex ended up paying for tons of lawyers and fines. Payback.

Our marriage was not good anyway, but this problem pretty much ended us. If you can't get your husband to help you, work with you, talk things out, there is not going to be much left.

I do think that kids will do what they are going to do no matter what we try to instill in them. Mine sure did.

I have two kids. A daughter who was just an angel. Good in school, polite, never in trouble. Then my son.... OMG he was bad.

But the light at the end of the tunnel is that he did shape up, he did learn from his troubles, and now has a BIG family. Six kids of his own, and his gf's previous kids. They have a great life, he works hard, and is the best dad. And guess what? He is teaching them manners, how to be responsible, how to be good. And haha, his 1 year old seems to be a bit feisty as he was and still is. He can't be away from her or she screams. Just like he did to me when young. He knows this kid has his personality and said OMG mom, I think I am in trouble with this one. All I said was HAHA payback's a bitch, ain't it?

He now has a thriving business, and is a genuinely good person, who helps people all the time.

I sure never expected he would turn out like this. So while you are going through these terrible times, just know it does get better. They just have to go through whatever happens to them if they do wrong, they just have to learn on their own that you get what you dish out. You get what you deserve. Good or bad.

I can now say that I miss him. He was my baby, I loved him, but when he was 18, I had to kick him out of my home. He made life hell, and I had had enough. I did the ultimate revenge. I sent him to his dad's house, with his new wife, and I told him to treat his dad and wife, and their house, just like he treated me. HAHA he got kicked out from there too.

Now his kids ask to be excused from the table, say please and thank you, and all kinds of things he would never do. I just look at him and think WOW, how did THAT happen??? But I know that I taught him those things. He just wasn't ready to listen to me then, with all the peer pressure they have.

I am sorry you are going through a rough time with your daughter. If it helps, adolescent tend to be self-centered, and selfish at times. While is hard for me to give you an advice without fully knowing the details, I can perhaps recommend counseling.

I am not sure if you have tried to talking to her but sometimes, we parents engage in passive aggressive communication we our children. The truth is that this type of communication leads nowhere. Have you tried to talking to her in an assertive way, and explain to her what's bothering you. Perhaps she doesnt know she is hurting your feelings?

I was rudeless with my mom, and now I feel bad how mean i was with her. I still appologize to her for back then!

One piece of advice that works for me sometimes: Practice patience. Take care of yourself and nourish your soul first by going for a walk, journaling, meditation (helps me), listening to music, etc. By taking care of yourself and nourish your soul, you will have more patience to deal with your teenager. Our children needs us and we have to be there for them!.

Good luck!