Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
He lives with us. We have a 17 year old daughter. While I know he loves us dearly he thinks very differently than us. He considers our daughter very "slothful". She gets mostly B's and some A's but he doesn't she is studying to her full potential. He feels like we are making a big mistake in raising her.
I believe:
I don't have the only teen that us slothful. She can be very messy !
I have never had to get on her about her homework. But I don't push her to get A's. She may have potential though. She is graduating this year.
She can have a huge attitude though . But we also get along most of the time.
Our friend's dad was in the military and he went both to boarding school and public school. So it was a very strict upbringing. He got divorced when his oldest was 4 but was a very involved and loving father. Hus oldest daughter is lovely.
Sometimes it just tires me to hear these negative things about us. I also feel that I am not a bad mother . I just pick my battles.
Thoughts?
I believe:
I don't have the only teen that us slothful. She can be very messy !
I have never had to get on her about her homework. But I don't push her to get A's. She may have potential though. She is graduating this year.
She can have a huge attitude though . But we also get along most of the time.
Our friend's dad was in the military and he went both to boarding school and public school. So it was a very strict upbringing. He got divorced when his oldest was 4 but was a very involved and loving father. Hus oldest daughter is lovely.
Sometimes it just tires me to hear these negative things about us. I also feel that I am not a bad mother . I just pick my battles.
Thoughts?
I will admit, I didn't push myself or have anyone pushing me in high school and because of that I got mostly a's and b's. my goal for my kids is to make honor roll which they usually can.
talk to the friend and explain to him that it is your child, if you want his opinion you will ask for it and if he doesn't like that he can find somewhere else to live. if he is living with you there must be a reason why he didn't succeed
1) To be functional; this means following a routine and doing what iss needed to an acceptable degree, even when we do not want to
2) To have a drive; this means that we know how to push ourselves when we want to; whether in athletics or academics ... politics or church ... just able to add effort
3) To love someone; knowing how to make sure that the feel loved and respected.
Many men feel that their role is to 'fix' things and must think about their actions to avoid overdoing this character flaw.
Thanks again for all your support.