Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
Last week the 16 year old got me so mad. He had been in a mood for almost 2 weeks. They come over for about an hour in the morning before I have to take them to school. I cook them breakfast. He threw a fit over nothing and I hate to say it but I lost my cool...screamed at him, got in his face then punched the side of the house. Typing with two fingers bandaged. He did not need that.
I just found out that why they were not at church, there was a family fight on Saturday night. The 14 year old got into a fight with his step dad who called the police. He was going to press charges. It was a lot. The 16 year old is very upset. I may get the police report, which may piss everyone off, but step dad has called the police twice on me and lied in the reports. Social Services has three maybe four past investigations.
Both boys are supposed to be in counseling. The 16 year old suffers from Conversion Disorder (He gets very sick when he gets over stressed and has been hospitalized twice since I have been involved.)
I don't know the whole story. The mom and grandma hate me. Grandma my aunt. I don't want to get too involved any more. What are some ways I can help. The 16 year old has no coping mechanisms right now. He has even begun talking less and less with me-RED FLAG. Thinking to help myself I will join a local Tae Kwon Do place. If I like I may offer to pay for both boys-it may not be counseling, but it might be a good de stressor for them.
I just found out that why they were not at church, there was a family fight on Saturday night. The 14 year old got into a fight with his step dad who called the police. He was going to press charges. It was a lot. The 16 year old is very upset. I may get the police report, which may piss everyone off, but step dad has called the police twice on me and lied in the reports. Social Services has three maybe four past investigations.
Both boys are supposed to be in counseling. The 16 year old suffers from Conversion Disorder (He gets very sick when he gets over stressed and has been hospitalized twice since I have been involved.)
I don't know the whole story. The mom and grandma hate me. Grandma my aunt. I don't want to get too involved any more. What are some ways I can help. The 16 year old has no coping mechanisms right now. He has even begun talking less and less with me-RED FLAG. Thinking to help myself I will join a local Tae Kwon Do place. If I like I may offer to pay for both boys-it may not be counseling, but it might be a good de stressor for them.
I think it's GREAT that you're taking care of your own needs by signing up for Tae Kwon Do to help de-stress. Excellent idea! I'm sure you've heard that old expression about how we must take care of ourselves first if we are to take care of others.
Are the kids getting counseling by order of the state? If so, find out who the Children's Services worker who's assigned to them is. Inform that worker about your observations and concerns. If you aren't able to do that, call the abuse hotline and tell them that you haven't seen direct evidence of abuse but are concerned something has happened the boys haven't come forward with yet or that tension is building and something may happen. Tell them you don't want to cause trouble; you just want the kids to get the help they need and you don't know what else to do.
If you do the class and decide to offer it for the boys, make sure you offer it to the parents but in their presence. Suggest that it will give everyone a break from each other to de-stress on a regular basis, may help the 16yo's health and help keep their medical bills lower, and teaches good self-discipline. They will be less likely to resist if they feel in control and see the benefit to THEM. Good luck. Take care.