Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
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My kid wants to move out, and hasn't been home in over two weeks yet won't move his stuff out to his dads, or have himself or his dad draw up new custody papers or child support orders. I contacted a pro bono lawyer today and looking forward to seeing if this lawyer will contact me back about setting up a new child support order to make sure I pay what I need to for my husband so he can receive the proper amount to help support our child, and to make sure that legally my child is no longer my responsibility as primary custodial parent.
My kid and my husband want to never have my kid come home, yet he still is my legal responsibility and he can keep his life and belongings at my residence.
My husband rips me off, he has hacked in to my account and stolen my identify before, so I don't trust him as far as I can throw him. If he wants to have my child live with him I want it to be legal, documented, and appropriate morally and legally. My husband and kid act like I am being a bitch for wanting this. I have no clue why?
I feel like I wish my kid would want to live with me, but he wont conform to any rules, will not respect me, and ever since the divorce he acts like he cant stand me, looks at me with contempt in his eyes, he messes up and hold me accountable for when things in his life fall apart due to his own negligence. I love my child and think I am better for him as a role model, but I cant force my teen son to want to live with me, and cant get him to cooperate and do his responsibilities or treat me decently. It is ruining our home and relationship, so I figure, if he is more comfortable and happy with Dad, so be it. Maybe one day he will return.
But with my husband being very abusive with me, and trying to take my personal identity for debts and accounts, and hacking in my bank account, with legal affairs and liabilities I do prefer to do things the honest and legal way and have everything on the up and up. Yet my soon to be ex husband and child talk to me as if I am being a bitch and unreasonable and as if I am trying to start trouble or doing something sinister.
I am only trying to protect myself honestly. It really isn't sour grapes, I fear for my future and do not want to be in a vulnerable position when it comes to this.
My kid and my husband want to never have my kid come home, yet he still is my legal responsibility and he can keep his life and belongings at my residence.
My husband rips me off, he has hacked in to my account and stolen my identify before, so I don't trust him as far as I can throw him. If he wants to have my child live with him I want it to be legal, documented, and appropriate morally and legally. My husband and kid act like I am being a bitch for wanting this. I have no clue why?
I feel like I wish my kid would want to live with me, but he wont conform to any rules, will not respect me, and ever since the divorce he acts like he cant stand me, looks at me with contempt in his eyes, he messes up and hold me accountable for when things in his life fall apart due to his own negligence. I love my child and think I am better for him as a role model, but I cant force my teen son to want to live with me, and cant get him to cooperate and do his responsibilities or treat me decently. It is ruining our home and relationship, so I figure, if he is more comfortable and happy with Dad, so be it. Maybe one day he will return.
But with my husband being very abusive with me, and trying to take my personal identity for debts and accounts, and hacking in my bank account, with legal affairs and liabilities I do prefer to do things the honest and legal way and have everything on the up and up. Yet my soon to be ex husband and child talk to me as if I am being a bitch and unreasonable and as if I am trying to start trouble or doing something sinister.
I am only trying to protect myself honestly. It really isn't sour grapes, I fear for my future and do not want to be in a vulnerable position when it comes to this.
Something else you might want to consider is getting a little counseling input on the situation with your son. Someone who specializes in divorce issues might be able to make some suggestions on how to restore your relationship with him and best handle things with his dad. Just a thought.
Lastly, I'm not sure if this will be useful or not, but I did see this article at http://bit.ly/1PGJX18 that talks about some of the custody issues you shared. So, might give you some guidance?
But, in the meantime, hang in there and don't give up hope for things with your son. Sometimes, issues like these just take time to settle down and kids come to respect the fact that you care enough about them to set down rules and guidelines. That will be my prayer for you son, anways!
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