Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
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i just found out that my then 16 yo/ now 17 yo son had sex for the first time last week...with a nice little girl that he dated last summer....
i'm torn...because i feel for the girl and her parents more than i do for my son...i had hoped he would have respected her more but what's done is done...and now I don't know what to do?
what do i do?
what would you do?
ugh...this life just keeps getting harder and harder....
DarqueStarr
i'm torn...because i feel for the girl and her parents more than i do for my son...i had hoped he would have respected her more but what's done is done...and now I don't know what to do?
what do i do?
what would you do?
ugh...this life just keeps getting harder and harder....
DarqueStarr
1) you have to allow and trust her parents to parent her.
2) talk to your son (or better yet have DAD if he's around) about having sex with someone he doesn't care for. Having some self respect and that includes respect for others. I don't necessarily know if he cared or didn't care for his ex gf. But remember sex is natural and not always bad. If you have a daughter put it in perspective about that happening to his sister (he may never have sex again).
Good Luck!
If that is your question, I think you should deal with your son as you see fit, and not tell her parents. That will just cause a world of problems. Hopefully, your son and this girl were smart enough to use some kind of birth control. How to deal with your son? Well, at 17, I am guessing he is going to do what he wants to do. I would reiterate the importance of respecting women, and practicing safe sex, but beyond that, it's really out of your control. Good luck.