Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
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she has suddenly have been very disrespectable has this friend who is into heavy metals and what i understand has tried to kill herself .my child calls her a blood sister .
my daughter has everything her own room laptop and phone may be that was a mistake .
i am now begingto doubt my self do i become harsh or do i just let it go .
dont have any issues on boy friends or any drug issues .
i feel lost and so does my wife .
thanks for reading
ray
los angeles
my daughter has everything her own room laptop and phone may be that was a mistake .
i am now begingto doubt my self do i become harsh or do i just let it go .
dont have any issues on boy friends or any drug issues .
i feel lost and so does my wife .
thanks for reading
ray
los angeles
Your daughter is at the stage where adolescents go through identity versus role confusion. Although she is probably trying to find herself, (we) parents usually get the bad attitudes which causes us to feel unsure of our parenting methods or as you stated "lost". However, if this is not the behavior that you condone, try establishing some boundaries and limits or negotiations with her. And most importantly, listen to her. I would say talk to her, but teenagers rarely want to talk to their parents at this age :).
I hope you and your wife will find suggestions to help you all through this period of development. Good luck!
As a crisis counselor I deal with parents on this very issue frequently. I think that it is not inherently bad that your daughter has all these things and access to the social world (so does my 14 year old daughter) what is important is the ability to speak honestly about what is going on in her life (be prepared sometimes we don't ask or listen because we don't really want to know the answers). I think monitoring her use of such is also reasonable. I do not ever search my children's rooms or computers, phones etc without permission. However, they do know and I randomly do ask for permission to access such at which time I will look through phones etc just to check up. My kids have known that this is the expectation from the get go. Also if I do find something I am upset about I do not yell or lecture instead we have open honest conversations about my expectations, there experience as teens and how to deal with the situation.
I think that it is imperative to have an honest and open conversation with her regarding suicide and self-mutilation as it sounds as though these are very real concerns to you. I would also make sure that she (or any other teen) have access to a private and confidential crisis line in case they have issues that they need to talk out in a "safe" environment.
Talking about suicide does not increase the risk it actually decreases the risk However, being subjected to someone who has attempted can be either a protective or risk factor depending on how it is handled.
Best of luck,
Lorraine
i will be coming back here i am sure of that but thanks for evrything guys .
ray