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My dd is 10 months old, I am a stay at home mom so I knew this day would come.
She refuses to let anyone else hold her, feed her, change her, even play with her, for more then fifteen seconds. She screams bloody murder when I leave the room. People won't baby sit her because she will cry for hours until I get back.
I can't put her down unless I'm sitting within arms reach of her. She won't walk holding anyone else's hands. She wakes up during the night and if I'm not the one bringing her a bottle she will screech.
It's driving me insane. I had little freedom before, which was okay because at least I had some, but now there is zilch in the freedom department.
Do babies grow out of this? Or is there something I should be doing?
We leave her with people for about an hour at a time, that's all they will do, and go out in an attempt to get her used to other's but it's not working.
Plus her dad is getting incredibly upset over it. He's convinced she doesn't like him anymore because he can't even hold her.
I haven't been out in weeks without the baby, because I do not have anyone willing to babysit and sit through the fits.
She refuses to let anyone else hold her, feed her, change her, even play with her, for more then fifteen seconds. She screams bloody murder when I leave the room. People won't baby sit her because she will cry for hours until I get back.
I can't put her down unless I'm sitting within arms reach of her. She won't walk holding anyone else's hands. She wakes up during the night and if I'm not the one bringing her a bottle she will screech.
It's driving me insane. I had little freedom before, which was okay because at least I had some, but now there is zilch in the freedom department.
Do babies grow out of this? Or is there something I should be doing?
We leave her with people for about an hour at a time, that's all they will do, and go out in an attempt to get her used to other's but it's not working.
Plus her dad is getting incredibly upset over it. He's convinced she doesn't like him anymore because he can't even hold her.
I haven't been out in weeks without the baby, because I do not have anyone willing to babysit and sit through the fits.
And yes you can do something about it. Keep leaving her with people and preferably use same people again and again so she gets to know and like them. Do the same with your DH, but be sure to always leave the room when they are together. It will take time but she'll get used to it.
We did go through this phase, but it was just a phase and it worked both ways. Once there was the mommy phase, and then there was the daddy phase where I wasn't as good as dad if dad was home.
Encourage dad to keep doing stuff with your LO when he is home. She will soon learn that he can take care of her needs, you will always come back, and soon she will learn that dad is a lot of fun. Remind him that a lot of dads feel what he is feeling and he just has to have the confidence that he is a good dad.
Have daddy take her, don't not step in and get her if she is crying. Uts her daddy and she needs to learn he is a loving, care provider too. It might be hard and he might get frustrated but have him go outside do somthing that might help her calm down. if you contunie to step in then she will never learn. Take baby steps and it will get better.
My suggestion is, even though it will pass, to leave her withsome you trust just to let her cry with when you need to do something and get her into a routine of being with daddy at the same time.
For us, I wanted to take a bath to relax at night and she would scream and scream so I wouldn't. Do it anyway. It forces them to learn to accept other people.
Remember, it's good for mommas and babies to have time away from each other.