Many, many women have this problem. You have given it a great try, much longer than most! Sometimes it just doesn't work out. I hope you have consulted a lactation specialist, but if not, I would try that before completely quitting. You could continue breastfeeding part-time if your baby will do so, and supplement your shortage with formula after or between your feedings. If you have to completely quit, that's OK - give yourself a pat on the back for trying so hard and giving your baby as much breastmilk as you could. Try not to feel guilty - your baby needs you to be happy more than she needs your milk.

What you are feeling is called "False Guilt". It is not your fault. If you've done something on purpose to make this happen, and later felt remorseful about it, that would be rational guilt. You love your baby and are doing the very best that can be done for your baby.

I had the same problem- had to stop at 2 months because my baby was in the lower 10% in weight. My daughter simply wasn't getting the nutrition she needed.

Looking back, I am glad that I had battled with breastfeeding the first two months. My daughter's immune system has had that extra little boost- and none of us have gotten sick since just before her birth.

On the other hand, I am also glad that I started my baby on formula. A week or so after, her weight jumped to perfectly middle line percentiles. We're both a lot happier- my daughter was sleeping through the night, she wasn't permanently attached to my breast (I'm sure you can understand the pain that caused), and I had a lot more time in the day to do other things.

If you ever start feeling guilty, just remind yourself that you are being a better mum for looking after your baby's health. :o)

Its really ashame how guily we feel. I was NOT ever going to breastfeed, but once I read all the benefits to the baby, I pressured myself into doing it. I am glad I did, but its hasn't been a real pleasant experience. My son too is 4.5 months and I am ready to quit. I gave myself a goal of 6 months, so I am almost there. I had to start supplementing at 3 months so I only breastfeed 3x's a day. I won't nurse in public, so when those 3 feedings turn into 1 or 2, my milk supply goes way down. In addition, he gets annoyed how long it takes for him to get his food, and starts to fuss. So, at this point, I too am just happy I got this far. Don't let it get you down, 4.5 months is way better then nothing. Good luck