i am sorry but i can't offer any help as i am having the same problem, i have been told just let them cry, but it feels cruel, so i am sorry, but good luck.

I can't let her cry either. She'll cry to the point of nearly choking. I guess if I fellt our bed was safer, I'd not be so concerned. I've kicked my husband to the couch (poor guy :( because he has a tendency to roll all around at night.

Good luck to you, too! Someone has to know what to do...

Well, many people will probably disagree with me, but her it goes....LOL
My daughter had reflux, so she was in much pain when she would go down to sleep. (Until we found out and got her meds) She would sleep with me on my chest every night for the first 2 months. Once we got her meds in check she was sooo much better and would go to sleep and sleep in her crib all the way through the night! We were very lucky. When I went back to work after 3 months i started the night shift so i could take care of her during the days. Well it began to be an issue to get some sleep, so I put her in bed with me for naps. It started to be an issue at night, but her dad puts her to bed now after I leave for work and he has his own routine with her, it works well.... He gives her a bath and a bottle, reads her a story, then puts her in her crib. It works for us, although she still wants to nap with me in the day, it works for us right now. I never was fond of "letting them cry" I would go 5 minutes and then I could not stand to here her get that upset, I just do not think it is good for them, again everyone is different. Maybe you can try a different routine, or let your husband tend to her at night??? It may work. It is not easy, but trying the same thing every night does help. My daughter is 10 months old now and getting more independant every month, she really does not want to be in our bed much at all anymore....Good luck, I sure hope it works out for you!

Well tried the crib last night. HA! She slept maybe for 30 minutes, woke up, realized she was not where she wanted to be and cried. I picked her up to soothe her and she grabbed my finger and did not want to let go...in fact, each time I tried to lower her into her crib, she squeezed my finger as if to say "no way lady". This went on until about 1am, and then I finally gave up and took her to bed with me. I'm a wimp, I guess. Part of the problem is her pacifier. When it falls out of her mouth while she is asleep, 9 times out of 10 she wakes up. I'm kicking myself for getting her accustomed to the pacifier, but with our oldest, we let her find her thumb and use it for comfort...but she's going on seven and I catch her every once in a while with her thumb in her mouth. We didn't want another habit. So...no sleep then. ARGGGH.

I'm having a similar problem, my baby wakes up about 1am and I take her down on the couch to breastfeed her back to sleep and I usually end up falling asleep with her. I also rock her to sleep every night. I'm ready to break this routine and I bought some books to help. I'll let you know if anything works.

I am probably going to jinx it, but Ellorie has been sleeping in her crib since 9pm (it's now a bit after midnight). After just a crummy day (I have a terrible cold and Ellorie refused to nap in her crib, thus refused to nap all day, making her EXTREMELY grumpy and jittery), she was so exhausted that she actually stayed asleep so far. However, now that she is in her room and in her bed, I can't sleep.
I am sure the victory is short-lived, as since I have this terrible cold, she is inevitably next and I am sure she'll have a few bad nights trying to sleep upright in her bouncy seat in order to breathe. (I hate when babies get colds. My eldest only had one when she was almost four months old and I insanely thought she was going to die. Took her to the ER and they said..."uh, she has a cold..." Brilliant on my part, really.) I doubt I'll be any better with Ellorie and will bug her ped. to death.
I guess until I know that she is used to sleeping in the crib, I'll still be sleeping verrrrry lightly.
Let's see how long she can sleep! So far we have a record in the crib of 3+ hours. I guess it can only get better. (Though, I am notorious for jinxing things by saying how great things are status quo and the moment I say it outloud, it all goes rather sideways and I end up feeling completely ridiculous.)
Now for some Sudafed and a light sleep for me. (Crossed fingers)!

I'm trying to sleep train my 7 month old now. The books Good Night, Sleep Tight by Kim West, and The No Cry Sleep Solution are really helping!

I know it's not a popular answer, but I did let both my son's cry it out when the time was right. The oldest would sleep in his crib until about 4am and then finish off the night with us & the youngest does the same, except he sleeps until between 5-6am and then goes back to sleep in our bed for about an hour. I never planned on co-sleeping (to each his own) but reality happens and when I was exhausted, any sleep under any circumstances became acceptable. I'm rooting for you, it's a tough one :)

Ellorie's not one to cry it out. I've sort of tried, but she will choke, and then scream some more. Plus, we have to consider our 6-year-old who gets up early for camp. We've been somewhat successful for a week now. She goes to sleep in her crib at about 10:30, wakes up at about 3am, I feed her, she goes back to sleep until 5, maybe 6, and I'm still exhausted so she comes back to bed with me. I am sure I'd be more rested were she sleeping with me from the get-go, but I want to curtail the habit before she's 30 years old and still sleeping with me. (ha). We've forgone the bassinet totally, which is good, since she's a bit too big for it anyway. Now, just a matter of time....and lots and lots of caffiene...(for me, that is...)

I know what you're saying about the crying. I felt very guilty and agonized about it, but it was very short-lived...in other words I was lucky enough to either have it work or, by coincidence something happened and I felt that it worked. I'm not one to encourage any one "right or wrong" way. Mine just happened to only cry for two or three minutes and then got with the program. I would never have gone through with it if I had to go "the long haul" with either of them...like others, I would have been too big a whimp. Hey, I hear "Rock Star" is tasty and gives you lots of energy :)

My daughter was going to sleep at about 10:30 also but the book I'm reading sais this is too late so I'm trying to get her asleep by 9 at the latest. I'm working on a schedule of naps so she's not overtired, and trying to get more calories in her during the day so she won't need to get up twice at night. It's hard, so far the past two nights I put her down drowsy but awake and it takes so long for her to get to sleep. I just sit by the bed and say shh... Hopefully correcting these things will pay off and she'll sleep better at night. We'll see. I wish you luck, we're in the same boat!

I think I read somewhere (maybe a while ago when my older 2 were young) to not pick them up when they cry, but stand next to the crib and soothe them so they know you are there for them. Maybe give that a whirl. Perhaps she will like the crib because it's bigger and she'll do fine.

Best wishes!

We regressed last night and she slept with me. I was just too exhausted to get up to keep putting that damn soothie back in her mouth. i hate that thing! She's in her crib tonight, but dunno for how long. sigh. this is a long and bumpy road.

A little unsolicited advice?
Be careful when cutting back on naps or trying to keep baby up so they'll sleep more. More often than not, this backfires. An overtired/overstimulated baby is an anxious baby, and as you when you are anxious, that does not always equal sleep but just the opposite. You may need to get your baby up an hour earlier in the morning and start your schedule from there. Just a thought...hope I'm not overstepping.

I welcome all advice, absolutely.
Oh believe me you, I am not trying to keep her awake. I wish she'd take a longer nap during the day so I can take a breather..or spend a bit of time with our oldest daughter. She takes these ridiculous spurt naps. 20 minutes, 30 minutes. Then back awake again. And I know what you mean about overtired and jittery...Ellorie is AWFUL when she is like that...which is just about every night these days at 9pm. She makes this constant noise like a motorcycle revving up and pulls at her face at that point of insane tiredness. Slowly, very slowly she is getting the hang of it. She went to sleep at 9 tonight and with the exception of a few wake up cries (I thankfully got her back to sleep) and it's now almost 12:30...(why the heck I am awake, I cannot tell you). I probably just jinxed it by typing that. Oh well. I'm just hoping if I am vigilant about putting her in the crib for naptime AND sleeptime, she'll get the idea that sleep belongs there. Ha. Or, I'll give up and just get in the crib with her. I'll do anything at this point.
I think I'm going to try to sleep. And you know the moment I drift off...well, I'm not even going to type it...sigh...