Didn't the school contact you first about this?

Wow, my son has had some experience like this: and no the school didn't contact me but I sure contacted them. I do make calls to the school and teacher as needed to keep informed and reind the teacher that she has a responsibility to the children she is in charge of. Sometimes adults do say the darnedest things and they are not aware of how the things they say will impact or affect a child.

Children don't always speak up for themselves towards a teacher. Sometimes out of fear of being punished by a teacher or because they believe the teacher is always right. In my sons case...he has both fears. He truly believes his current teacher does not like him and could send him away if he doesn't behave.

Like I said, the teacher does get random phone calls and letters from me requesting that she explain what took place during a day. Most the time it is a misunderstanding. Other times I have reminded her to be more considerate and thoughtful before she speaks.

Last year we had an excellent teacher for 1st grade who was very interactive with us. We worked closely together to help educate my son and help groom him in social situations. And yes, once in a while we would her some questionable remarks being made but we were able to address them quickly and keep things on a happier note.

And we wonder who our children are learning some rudeness from.
Good luck in finding happy ground with your child's teacher.
Oh and yes, if there is something on your mind....PLEASE do keep an open line of communication with the teacher and principal as needed. They are not above being human and they do make mistakes too.

Hugs and happy holidays :)

I'm just curious...you seem upset that your son said the teacher had to babysit him, yet you asked for the situation in his words? Did he say the babysit thing or did the teacher? You can't only rely on your child to get the whole picture; if the school doesn't call you then you call them and you should be able to talk directly to the teacher. Maybe you should even go talk to her in person. If you work maybe you could set something up for during your lunch break, or go in late or leave early one day. What about a home visit? Would the teacher to be willing to do that?

Even though you don't like the teacher this is a great opportunity to show your son you can work with someone even if you don't like him. Just try to remember you are both on the same side-what's best for your son. It's even a great time to teach him that it's okay not to like everyone but you still should treat them with respect. Also, don't ever be afraid to ask questions especially when it comes to your kids.

My son too had an experience last year that threw me....I think the problem is that when we were young teachers were older and wiser....now...bless them...they are young and enthusiastic and then realize that its alot of hard work......my sons teacher made comments like...."your going to push me over the edge" and my son commented alot on her yelling at the class....not him he would say...but the rest of the class.....I think alot of kindergarten teachers nowadays are brand new and havent found their nitch yet....they also feel like they are in complete control of the class room and they dont need input from parents.....I would ask about it.....to be more specific about the incident and make sure that appropriate action was taken and leave it alone....if multiple comments come up I would call her out on all of them...but one faux pau isnt worth putting a dark cloud over your child for the rest of the year....

My son has had similar situations with teachers kinda just saying things that would hurt his feelings. As soon as i find out im at the school. Every school my son has been to they know that im the parent they dont want showing in the office because of something they did or said. You dont work for them they work for your child. So on that go down there and remind them of that. I have good communication with his school and help out alot, but they know if i just show up there is a problem, and someone better cover the teachers class. Cause she has some explaining. And i know i sound bitchy,but im not im every kind until it comes to my kids.

This is tough - you aren't sending your kid in to be babysat - but you also don't know what goes on all day and what the teacher was dealing with at the same time...you want to defend your son, and protect him as well...I would say let it go for now, remind your son how he is to behave in school and if it happens again to please let you know. At that time, if it happens again I'd go to the teacher. As for your son having to go to the principal and they didn't call or send home a note - I'd talk to the principal about it and find out what school protocol is. He's a kinder - and unless you've had a kid in their school prior - you don't know the ropes either. In our school, things are usually handled within the class, by the teacher - and the parents and then, if it escalates or continues - the principal steps in. If this is a new teacher - she could simply be overwhelmed and unsure of herself. Try to approach her and work together - make it a point to show you are expecting your son to learn and be taught in class and that she can count on you if there are issues...tell her 'let's work together to ensure my son's best foot forward'...I think this might help a lot. Teachers' (while not perfect and overstepping boundaries at times) are given a lot to deal with and little resources to do things with, they feel one against the families/kids/parents/etc...if they know you are involved as a parent, they usually tend to let the wall down and welcome you in. Good luck.

Maybe the teacher had to sit with him in timeout while it got sorted out. If the school didn't contact you, you might want to contact them and get an appt. to see the teacher to see what happened. You can do this by letting her know that you like to know when your child breaks a rule so you can handle it at home too. and it is nice to get both sides of the story.

As a daycare provider I am not allowed to say things like that to children, it's basically calling him a baby! Name calling. Now whos immature? Very unprofessional. Me personally would wait, and get some feed back from other parents about that particular teacher. I have learned to have a presence in my childrens school so you know these things, its a catch 22 you wanna stand your ground, but then again your kids has to be in this ignorant ladys class all year is it worth it, Id make notations see if she had a moment or if this is her daily behavior, she might be in the wrong profession. Im ashamed to say it but ive turned things around before and said that it made my child upset (implying sad), just so they know im aware of the situation,even though it really made me made, hoping they would be sympathetic instead of the other way.

My grand acts up more than most kids in her class. In fact, she is probably the most difficult kid her teacher has (this is only the teacher's third year teaching kindergarten).

I know my grand frustrates the teacher, and I can understand why. She is a strong-willed little girl. The teacher and I have open communications through notes and emails.

There are days my grand doesn't listen and there are consequences in the class--she'll have to sit out from a group activity if she's not cooperating, etc. I concur with the teacher most times and discuss making good choices with my grand so hopefully the next time, she won't have to miss any activities in class.

I agree with all the advice. Do keep in contact with the teacher and maybe even take a day off to volunteer in the classroom. After spending an entire day together you both may gain some insight on each other. You also will have a different perspective on what goes on throughout the school day.