My daughter is almost 7 years old. She is extremely self-conscious about the hair on her arms and legs. It all started on the bus to Kindergarten last year when her seat buddy pointed at her legs and asked her why she had so much dark hair on her legs. In actuality, she doesn't have that much hair on either her arms or her legs, but it is dark, so it's more noticeable. At that point, she has been obsessed with it. One time last year, she snuck a razor from my bathroom and tried shaving the hair off her arms, only to run her finger over the blade and cut her finger. (Horrible!) Now, a year later, she is obsessed with making her hair straight and obsessed with having blonde hair. She has wavy, medium brown hair! She brushes her hair constantly to try to get the waves out of it and asks me all the time to straighten it. She compares her hair color to EVERYONE. "Mommy, is my hair lighter than hers?" Seriously??? She's not even 7!!
Last week, she asked me again about doing something about the hair. I told her that maybe when she gets a little older, we could try the hair removal cream. This brings me to last weekend. She went to a friends house for a playdate. She went there with hair on her body...she came home HAIRLESS!! She told me that her friend shaved all the hair off her arms and her legs. I later, after checking her entire body, found out that she also shaved her back, and her private (there isn't even hair there!) Now, my daughter can tell the biggest lies ever, so this may not be true, but she told me that her friend said that if my daughter did not allow her to shave the hair off her body, she would no longer be friends with her. I was furious to say that least, that a 7 year old would do that, could do that, and have no parental supervison to be able to do that!
Needless to say, she is no longer allowed to see that girl, but my questions are this:
What can I do to make my daughter: 1. stand up for what's right 2. see that she is beautiful just the way she is (and I know I'm her mother, but she is a beautiful little girl...anyone who knew this happened would be absolutely shocked that she feels so self conscious)
My husband and I NEVER point out any of our children's flaws and NEVER talk about body image. We are trying to teach our kids to be happy with the skin they're in. My favorite comment to my daugher is, "If you had blonde hair or blue eyes, then you wouldn't be you, and I love you just the way you are." Any words of advice like that don't seem to be working. I want to fix this before the teenage years get here because I know if this doesn't get fixed now, I'm in trouble!
Sorry this is so long. I needed to vent...and need some advice!!!
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