I am lost for words other then you all will be in my prayers.
I am so deeply sorry for each and everyone in your family.
A friend of mine lost her youngest son a few years ago on Thanksgiving day,I had moved a few years earlier and we had lost touch, she searched until she found me, but the only thing I could offer is my shoulders and ears.
Maybe start a new tradition of planting a flower or tree in their memory each year,or make an hour to sit aside to tell good memory's of your daughter on Thanksgiving, Christmas.Get old pictures out.
My husband And I lost our dad's 9 months apart, so we use Christmas Eve as a sharing time. (Iam starting to cry) We exchange a gift. He gets me something in rembrance of my dad and I do the same thing for him.For years, because they both loved the out doors we did items for the flower beds etc. But this year I want to start their own Christmas tree and get ornaments each year.
No matter how long it is how much time goes by we still miss them terrible.
We just find ways to keep their memorys alive.
It is so fresh to you all my heart hurts for you. God Bless you and you will be in my prayers. I am soooo sorry for your pain.

Im am at a loss as well...im truely sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss not only did you lose your beautiful daughter you have lost a grandchild as well The best thing you could do for your other children is to be there for them and let them greave for as long as they need to maybe you can get greaf counselling for the whole family. This must be so hard for you dont forget to take time for ourself aswell.
You and your family are in my thoughts and any time you need someone to talk to I am here.

I am very sorry for your tragic loss. It is so sad. I wish I had a way to make it better for you. My older sister took her life the night before thanksgiving several years ago. The best piece of information, for me, was from a pastor who told me that the way I felt would not last forever. The grief was intense at first, it came in waves, sometime it was overwhelming, but eventually it was manageable. It is much easier for me to remember her without crying anymore. I know that is how she would have wanted it. It helped me to reach out to God in prayer at that time. It was comforting for me to think she was finally at peace (she had had a difficult life). I will keep you in my prayers.

I feel awkward giving advice to someone who has gone through such a terrible loss, something anyone would have an extremely hard time getting through, but I can give it a whirl.

My father and brother died just years apart. My mother and I received counseling. It helped to go through the motions. But, the one thing that was most beneficial to me personally was understanding and EMBRACING the grieving process; DENIAL AND ISOLATION(let yourself do this but not for long-learn to accept that yes this has really happened and life has to and will go on), ANGER (let yourself cry, let yourself experience it---this one helps sooooo much in moving forward...for me it helped to cry in order to not get mad or irrational), BARGAINING (or WHY DID THIS HAPPEN? I'll do anything to change what has happened, usually w/ god...this one I didn't experience strongly), DEPRESSION...speaks for itself, ACCEPTANCE (finding life after grief).

I fully believe you have to let yourself FEEL the way you are going to feel about it. Embrace it but don't let it take a firm grip and own you. Don't hold back b/c getting to acceptance will take longer.

My son experienced a death of someone he was close to not too long ago. Children experience grief a little differently. The first stage seems so difficult for them but time heals them better and with us time hurts us more later until we accept it.

I found letting him cry himself to sleep for several nights and reassuring him that it was ok to be sad and angry helped him accept it. Now, he recalls him often and smiles at the memories he has of his instructor.

Hope this helps....best of wishes to you and your family.