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Anyone who will be alone at Christmas

Kacey1228
Kacey1228
I lost both of my parents in 2006 within7 months of each other. I have 4 sisters, 3 of whom I talk to. I have one sister who has invited me to Savannah to spend Christmas with her, her boyfriend, and my neice. Only, she wants me to drive there. I haven't driven that far by myself ever! I was so thankful when I could actually get back to driving at all. My sisters don't understand. They know that I'm on disability for depression, anxiey and OCD, but they seem to also think that if I push myself hard enough that I will get better. I have tried to push myself. Maybe all of my lonliness is my own fault. Anyway, my sister will not understand if I can't drive the 5 or more hours that it takes to get to Savannah from where I am here in Cartersville, Georgia. Today is Thanksgiving(yesterday really, it's almost 4 o'clock in the morning now.) I spent today alone. I just want to know if there is anyone else that is as alone as I am? I feel so lonely, and I feel that I am the only person in the world that is this lonely.
harry3333
harry3333
I think you should go and take lots of valium type meds with you
but use public transport, bus probably
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know what you mean about the traveling. I honestly have had to push myself and it does help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i really feel for you. when my anxiety was at its worse, i had a real problem about being on my own. I also had a fear of driving on my own too. Well done for driving again. thats real good! Sometimes its hard for people to understand what we go through. My mum usually says to me 'pull yourself together and get on with things' if only it was that easy huh?! i think you should definitely go to your sisters. Maybe your sister could drive out and meet you half way so you only have to do part of the journey on your own. Maybe you could do the journey in stages for example drive for an hour then take a break and call someone then do another hour etc etc.I think going to your sisters would do you the world of good. Talk to your sister too. tell her your fears maybe she might be able to help you out?
Good luck and hang in there x
shea
shea
KACEY,HUN I AGREE WITH HARRY.I HAVE PROBLEMS DRIVING BY MYSEFT AND I HAVE BEEN TO CARTERVILLE AND TO SAVANNAH GA.I USED TO TRAVEL WITH MY HUSBAND.HUN I GET LONLEY AND I DO HAVE SOMEONE AROUND ME.I BET YOU WOULD GO THROUGH ALTANTA AND THEN DOWN,AND BELIEVE ME I-16 IS A LONG FREEWAY.YES HARRY IS RIGHT,I WOULD TAKE A BUS DOWN THERE.YOU HANG IN THERE AND LET ME KNOW HOW YOU ARE.LOV YA,SHEA..............
PaulaRenee
PaulaRenee
Kacey, your not alone. I feel exactly like you do. I am also always alone, and spent Thanksgiving by myself also. I'm always scared to go out because of my anxiety, and I hate driving. I always wish someone would come over and sit with me, but no one will. So I usually spend the day moping around and thinking too much. The other night my cousin came over and spent the night-- it made such a difference. While she was here I felt so much better, I laughed and smiled with her, and just being with her kept my mind off of everything. If only she could stay here with me all the time! (lol)

I'm sorry I don't have much advice for you since I am still going through the same thing. But I do have a couple things that help me a little bit.
*Writing in a journal. It helps me reflect on my feelings and emotions
*My 2 dogs and 3 cats. It seems like no matter how bad you feel, when they come up and lay on you or give you kisses, you feel at least a little teensie bit better. (do you have any pets?)
*Talking on the phone. When I'm talking to someone it kind of makes me forget that I am lonely
*Coming on this website. It really helps to talk to people that feel the same way that you do.

I really hope I helped you =) (thats a fake smile, sorry I just cant seem to do the real thing!) Please feel better