Painful Intercourse Support Group
Dyspareunia is painful sexual intercourse, due to medical or psychological causes. The term is used almost exclusively in women, although the problem may occur in men. The causes are often reversible, even when long-standing, but self-perpetuating pain is a factor after the original cause has been removed.
I’m 50 and since 23 years in a relationship. However she never had sex with me. Not having sex is kind of painful too. Sorry I don’t want to be rude or ignorant. I’m just frustrated.
Reading through the posts here I wonder if it could be that my partner might be afraid that my penis is too big for her? I have no idea whether or not that might be the case. She knows it when it is erected and hard but I never experienced her. She never said something related to it.
I have been married for 20 years and penetration is just painful!! I can’t remember a time that is was ever pleasurable. I want our sex life to be good but I fear the pain. I try to relax and breathe through it, but it doesn’t help. I feel guilty. He is loving and always makes sure he is gentle. He hates that he hurts me and we usually find other ways. The problem is I would rather not do it at all and other times I want it so badly, but resort to erotic stories to read instead. The stories or fantasies in my head won’t hurt me.
Have you tried talking to her about this problem and how it effects you? Communication goes a long way, even with the “embarrassing” topics.