Painful Intercourse Support Group
Dyspareunia is painful sexual intercourse, due to medical or psychological causes. The term is used almost exclusively in women, although the problem may occur in men. The causes are often reversible, even when long-standing, but self-perpetuating pain is a factor after the original cause has been removed.
When I try to have vaginal intercourse, it hurts terribly.
I remember I used to enjoy it.
Now it seems like my vagina just doesn't open up--it isn't dry, it still gets wet as thoroughly as always. Lube doesn't help.
It just seems like it's closed off and if something goes in there, it has to be forced. It just closes up around it and I can feel it going over a bump and it feels like it's tearing my up inside no matter how slowly or lubricated it goes.
I've been reading about vaginismus and how it can happen after trauma. I seriously think it may be from the domestic abuse I've experienced but that just scares me so completely because if it is that, there seems to be no fix. I'll just never be able to do it again because it's so horrible, so I'll never be able to be in a relationship again.
I remember I used to enjoy it.
Now it seems like my vagina just doesn't open up--it isn't dry, it still gets wet as thoroughly as always. Lube doesn't help.
It just seems like it's closed off and if something goes in there, it has to be forced. It just closes up around it and I can feel it going over a bump and it feels like it's tearing my up inside no matter how slowly or lubricated it goes.
I've been reading about vaginismus and how it can happen after trauma. I seriously think it may be from the domestic abuse I've experienced but that just scares me so completely because if it is that, there seems to be no fix. I'll just never be able to do it again because it's so horrible, so I'll never be able to be in a relationship again.
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it like a lump in my vagina. and yes it does hurt. Unless the intercourse was very slow and mild.
But I am older and just left my husband so I'm not worried. My doc
said it had not dropped enough to do anything yet. Doc is leaving
the final decision up to me.
From your brief description it does sound like vaginismus. I hear that scares you as you feel nothing can be done to help. Actually, that's far from the truth. Vaginismus has a psychological cause and counselling can make a massive difference.
It does take time, there is no quick fix and no medication that can cure it, but treatment through therapy can be 100% effective.