Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
This is my first time on here, looking for some sort of help or Outlet I don't know. I have a 15 year old he was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD back when he was 9or 10. Though some therapists, (which we have seen many have helped with a few things here and there), things seem to be escalating and getting worse, my home is chaos fighting everyday, cussing screaming, destroying doors, walls. He was an A,B student his whole school career and now he's failing 3 or 4 classes and says he does not care he is giving up. We can barely get him to go to school he is missed so many days, of course there's always an excuse that he doesn't feel well or something hurts. His brother and he have a horrible relationship they haven't really spoken in 2 months, he has issues with his father because his father was military and was gone a lot. I cry almost every day I can't take this anymore and don't know what to do who to turn to where to go I keep looking for a therapist or somebody who's an expert in this area to help us but finding nothing. He's been on all kinds of medication yes it helped with some concentration but it made him feel sick and have a headache and he didn't eat. The medication did not help with the ODD, we have gone to so many therapist it's crazy. So here I think going to a psychiatrist would help all they do is prescribed medication. My marriage is suffering because of this. Our whole family is suffering. We are in serious crisis and don't know where to turn everyday it's something. Have one good day and you get this little spark of hope and then the next morning that spark of hope is gone. Sorry for the long post... I have very close friends and they understand a little bit but if you don't live with a child like this you really don't get it. Family members just try to tell you how to fix it but they don't get it either.
I have two sons 16 and 13 both with Mental Health disorder and neurological disorders. I can sense your desperation. Now I am new here because I had a rough day with 13 and wanted a little reassurance but I saw your post and I wanted to reach out.
It sounds like your son has a lot that his is dealing with. If you are immediately concerned about your sons safety or your family take him to an emergency room and have him evaluated.
It would be worth doing reasearch on depression and taking him to the dr for a depression screening. If he is depressed medication will help relieve some of his symptoms. It's not immediate and can take up to a month for the full therapudic effect. But it can help. One thing I have learned is self care. I see my own therapist and so does my husband. Caring for our children is difficult and hard work. Having someone that I can talk out my frustration and pain too helps to keep me even. I found my therapist through my Employee and Family Resource program through my work. I also call them when we are having a particularly rough day just to process with someone.
It probably seems like you are in crisis mode and hurtle from one problem to the next with no breath. Work with the school counselor for resources, or contact your county public health for resources.
It seem like in your post that you are unsure about medication and therapy. These mental health issues are life long and it can take time to find the right combination of both with long term consistency for meaningful results. A psychologist can test and evaluate for mental health, neurological disorders and learning disorders. A psychologist will be able to use that information to find the right balance of medication. They are out there find someone who will listen to you. Find someone who will listen to your son.
Going to therapy is not 16's favorite thing to do by any means but he goes and sometimes he only talks about music but he feels listened too.
Hang in there, don't give up.
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