Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
I am totally freaking out! My son starts school tomorrow. His first day in alternative school (8th grade)The last 3 years have been horrendous, I literally received over 300 emails from his resource teacher last year alone, most of them negative. I am so worried that it will be bad again and who knows where the heck they'll stick him if alternative doesn't work. I am trying so hard to be positive around him and I have had a lot of conversations with him over the summer. I took a Wrightlaw bootcamp class so I can be better prepared for this year too. I can tell he is a bit nervous as well. I think I may be having an anxiety attack. Deep breaths...anyone out there feeling like this?
bugabugsmom
I get this way also. I have to be careful though cuz they will feed off your stress and that causes them to stress out. Just let your son know that he has responsibility to go to school and be the best he can be. That you will be there for him but he has to put forth effort too,. If there are coping skills he can use at school to help him calm down or refocus then if he has an Iep make sure they are in it so he can use them. My daughter can walk around with a para or the principal. She also can go sit in his ofice and talk to him when she is struggling and that has really helped her. Set up a reward for him if he has a good day at school. but if he has had a rotten day then be there for him when he comes home and needs to unwind maybe vent to calm down. I Know it hard to read comments about your child thatare not positive, I went through this and I fnally said something at one of the meetings, I read back to them what they had wrote about her and ask how they would feel if they had a negative evalution rom the school board and there was nothing at all even if it was small positive said about them. I told them I understood that I needed to know about her behaviors but I thought they could word it better and not be so judgemental. we are not in that school anymore and the one we are in is a lot better and she is doing better. hang in there and hopefully he will have a better year.My daughter had a bad ending last year but had a great start/ one thing I have learned through therapy is that she is the one who chooses what kind of ay she will and she is the one who has to make the effort to try, I cannot do it for her. I can be there for her but until she chooses to make better choices and learn to cope as yes we know that not everything is her fault but until she makes that efforet not much is going to get better her, that is putting accountability on her and not us. we are lucky in that the school she is in is very supportive of her,, they have her where she is watched over but not in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable, I wish you both the bestof luck,
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my 10 year old started school on the 8 and on the secound day I got a call from school and he had 2 days ISS just for refusing to use his highlighter, the schools here in FL do not know how to handle childer with diorders,,the next day he got kicked out 3d day of school mind ya, and it all has to do with the dean showing my son who is boss,he pretty will came out and told me this,,so I think it is going to be a long year,so I know how you feel and I to feel a major anxiety..(my 10 year old has ODD,bipolar,anxiety and to top it of ticks)
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We are doning better then last year day 3 of school and got my first call about his lying. Last year it was first day.
rockym
2 weeks into school and It's going good so far. He missed Thu and Fri last week due to a sinus infection. he was able to get caught up with home work and he went to level 3. They have level 1,2 & 3. 3rd level is the highest and they get special priveleges. The director said he is doing great with only one day of beligerence so far. He still complains about not being able to go to school with his friends but he can earn his way back to his home school but the earliest he can go is November. I would love to keep him in this school with only 6 kids in his class and 3 teachers and a counselor, but I guess we have to give him a chance to prove himself. I'll worry about that when the time comes. Hope you all are surviving the new school year!
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I wish I could say my son's year is better but I found out yesterday it hasn't been. The teacher said that it's not horrible but he just refuses to do his work, go to the different classes (art, music, etc). I don't know what else to do.
rockym
Jazr2000-what grade is your son in and other than ODD, what are his issues? Does he have learning disabilities or is he able to do the work and just refuses to? Does he have anxiety? You should call a meeting with the school to discuss in detail so you can come up with a plan. Hang in there, I know how you feel. I am on pins and needles at work just waiting for THE email or phone call. Thankfully I haven't had any so far this year, but it's early still.
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Samuel is in the 1st grade. He just refuses to do the work. They put him in the highest learning group-they call it Flex groups here-because he is very capable of doing more challenging work. There are some days he has no problem doing any of it then the next day he just won't and has a melt down. His teachers and I have a meeting 3-4 times a year at pivotal points (begining, middle, going into Christmas break, spring break time and end of the year...etc.) to discuss stuff. Plus I talk with them nearly daily when there are issues. They are great. He has some sensory issues too but they are getting better now. Last year he couldn't handle eating in the cafeteria because of all the noise and commotion but by the end of the year he was handling it and doing good with it. He really hasn't had any bad issues with it this year as of yet that I know of. I have anxiety so I know that's where he get's it from. I can handle mine though but he's still too young to understand how.
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