As promised, I will share various observations and notes about living with an OCPD husband.

-- Wed. November 2, 2011 @ 10am -- OCPD tendencies worsen as things in life become more difficult to control - i.e. blood glucose. cannot figure out why it is high sometime so he feels the need to become more controlling over my actions.

-- earlier that morning just waking up -- (( A little explaining of this situation. We do a Wii Fit Plus exercise every morning. We have a yoga mat that we set under the board. This all sits on a hardwood floor in front of two metal DDR pads ( for those who are not Arcade geeks, they are the metal pads with four plastic arrows in the NSEW directions. You step on them according to the beat of the music ). On those pads are two support bars and the bars have supports that touch the floor. Sometimes, the yoga mat bumps against those supports.))) From the top of the stairs he asks his query list, " Did you unplug the modem for five minutes? I answer yes and I get a grumpy look from him. I go to set up the mat and board and the mat is touching the support. He had to make it parallel to the metal pads and equidistant from them without it touching the supports. ---

It is not straight Part Two

-- Sun. September 18, 2011 @ 10pm -- It all started when I couldn't park straight on the first attempt while going to the doctor. It took me two times to get it straight. (conversation) Why'd ti take you twice!? Becuz i didn't get it right the 1st time. He snaps back - could have done it once!

Hi Patricia, I hope you are still here!

Does narcissism tend to be a symptom of OCPD? I thought that was a PD itself. I have just been diagnosed with this, and when reading about the symptoms, I imagine I drive my family crazy with all my minute details about how to do things. Everything is starting to make sense to me know... like all my idiosyncrasies fall into this disorder... like I cannot finish projects bc they are not perfect enough, list making to the max, pointing out the faults of others and seeing them in myself and not seeing the good things. How has this disorder affected you? or anyone else out there.

Yes. I am still here. Just away from DS.
Upon my little research of the OCPD, i found a blurb about other PD being found along with OCPD. I will find the information again and post it, so that it is right from the source. I will search again, find it and post it.

As far as affecting me, well, I married it. Our relationship suffers because he does not realize he has a PD. Also, if he did know, he would say he would fix it by his own will - not by any pills or doctor. He has to be in control of everything. Makes him feel safer if he tells me what I need to do - even if I have already said it. That is just one example. My issues are of the ADHD side with attention, task management, time management, and a little of that " I cannot finish a project if it is not perfect " and lately I get more irritated if things mess up. You name it: dishes, cutting veggies for dinner, writing something down.... if i mess up, then I curse or let out a frustrating grrrr. Zero patience lately.
I will, as I mentioned earlier, post the information that I have about the link between narcissism and OCPD.
Thank you Gypsy64 for sharing your story.
~PattyAnn

Hey there: I just joined your forum. Is it still active?

Hello to you all. How I find this site is just a miracle. I am at a state of shock right now. I just found out, or better yet my husband just told me that he is suffering from OCD...or OCPD...one of the two...but I for sure think it's the later. We were a couple for 7 years and we just got married 5 month ago. Saying he is a man of my dreams is an under statement. He treats me like a princess. I have never witnessed during those 7 years anything weird on him. We lived together two years and he never obsesses about anything like cleaning, making me change tables or was abusive towards me, he is just an not showing any of those things at all...but he is a workaholic...he said he is suffering from it himself and that he has thoughts like counting tiles etc...and he is not always but thinks negative on certain issues but nothing much. Now recently he has extreme pressure and I was mad at him as certain things were not going as we planned ( like I was supposed to join him to a country where he is now working) but he postpones it and that caused our spat) he has a problem with sharing his emotions and he takes his time but we always find a way but this time he stops texting me, or calling for days and weeks...he doesn't pick up or answer to my texts...he said in a nutshell that he is 'Trying to find himself' and that he is okay. And that I'm an amazing woman...I do to know what to do as this is very new of him...I text him everyday saying everything will be fine and that I love and miss him. I don't know what else to do...shall I book a flight and go to him? Or wait it out hoping it will pass? I don't know really. He was a man who tells me that he loves and misses me everyday and night. Now it seems he is really caving in and I think he might be hurting himself. It's all new for me and may be I should have been supportive asa he told me but I tried it was a shock as we were newlyweds...he has a work pressure and his thoughts combined with my complaining, I think it push him to the edge. Pls help me....what should I do.

Hello? Is this board still open? I need support and help.
Thanks

I am interested in this as well. I'm pretty desperate.