Hi koko!

I personally have been scared of becoming pregnant, it's life changing. And when your ready it's a beautiful experience but when your not, it can be frightening, i totally understand. What i would recommend is to do some research on your body and your fertility. I bought this book Taking charge of your fertility and it basically explains to us woman about our bodies.

http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0060881909/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1308127917&sr=8-1

I personally never knew any of the stuff this book talks about. Like there are actually ONLY 3 days your feritile and can become pregnant. It sucks because guys are fertile ALL the time. But we're the ones who have to take BC and deal with the hormones of that etcetc. But this book teaches you how to chart your cycles and signs to look for as far as your fertility goes(basal temp,cervical fluid). It might sound confusing because you DON'T want to become pregnant but i think the more you know of your body, the better you'll feel. The unknown is always scary. I hope this helps! :]

Hey I am also 22 and my parents think the same thing :P. My SOand I do not use condoms but i am on birthcontrol. I have taken plan b twice, the first time we had sex back in october and more recently. I get really paranoid cuz I fear the birthcontol wont work. PLUS my bf is living at my house so if I got pregnant my parents would be PISSED. They would hate him and be so mad at me cuz they are doing us a favor. So everytime I am waiting for my period I'm like please come please come, then sometimes i still fear I am pregnant cuz you still can get ur period when ur pregnant. So it's hard.

My OCD mainly revolves around woman issues. I have thought that I was pregnant so many times. I would think av=bout it so much that I would get morning sickness and constantly look at my belly in the mirror. Iv'e since have two children and don't fear that as much anymore. But, I do have a fear of catching stds. Public bathrooms, towels, seats, -----it's rediculous but it's what my mind focuses on. I don't sleep around but I still find myself thinking about it so much that I create real physical symptoms. I;m constantly going to the gyno and getting temporary relief---but so find myself making new appointments to confirm. It sucks. That's just what i'm stuck on right now. Next year i'm sure i'll be plaugued with something else.

I can totally relate. I'm 30, on hormonal birth control, use condoms, know when I would theoretically be ovulating if I weren't on birth control (I use the Ortho Evra patch, so it's a LOT easier to be consistent), and I have still taken more home pregnancy tests than most women will in their entire lifetime.

I think my main issue is that I have made a decision not to have children, due to my myriad psychiatric/psychological issues. However, I couldn't abort if I did have an "oops" - I don't judge women who do, but I know I couldn't (anyway, as my friend once put it, with all of the precautions that I take, "it would literally be like God wanting to create another baby Jesus.")

I wish I could give you some help in dealing with this, but I'm really just getting my sea legs myself. Just wanted to let you know that I understand completely.

Caroline

@Annika: STDs have always been my hugest concern, ALSO around public toilets. The entire time I was in high school I did not use the bathroom there because I knew of some girls that had STDs. I wasn't going to risk it!

People keep telling me "if you're that terrified of getting pregnant, then you shouldn't be having sex" but they don't understand I have OCD. I get terrified from many harmless things. (not saying sex is harmless but you know what I mean)

so that isn't good advice. Ugh. I hate being female sometimes.

I have recently been becoming more sexually active too, no sex, but close enough. Actually very recently, as in I'm still freaking and waiting for my period, lol. I'm not on birth control, but we did use condoms, and when there wasn't a condom(which is the part I'm still kind of freaking over) there were some type of clothing between us. Um, I really don't know how to stop freaking about it. I don't plan on having sex yet, but you can still get pregnant without having sex, so ya. I can totally relate, and just stay strong. If you're taking all of the precautions, it's a next to none chance that you"ll get pregnant. Allow yourself to freak to a minimum as well. Don't let it affect how you live, unless you absolutely know you are pregnant. Then, just go from there. Some things we can't control, like the less than one percent of it actually happening while you take all the precautions, so just live and do until you know the truth. Then adjust how you live and do accordingly, if the situation calls for it. Freaking definielty doesn't help, so I've kind of placed it on the back burner. If I don't get my period...well, I'd rather not think about it at the moment. Good luck to you! Be safe, like you already are!