Well, it didn't use to be a problem but when I started obsessing over Sexual Taboo things it completely killed any sort of arousal because I would think of the most disturbing things right in the middle of ANYTHING. And I have known a few other people with OCD who have said that OCD has killed their sex drive.

yea i know how you feel. thats what my OCD mostly goes for. guess ill just have to grind it out and figure some way of getting by x

I know, having read (once again) the REMINDER that I should do my best to remain positive and helpful. The reminder seems to have left out the word "honest". I have severe OCD,, and have had it for 23 years now - and have remained sober for all of those 23 years. As to my sex life, however, as one of my obsessions is S.T.D.'s, O.C.D has decimated my sex life. I've been celibate for over 12 years now. As I'm middle-aged, it's not as big a deal as it once was, and I made up for whatever I might be missing now when I was younger.. Basically, the thought of sex now - while still being tantalizing, in some way - is either terrifying, disgusting, or both. I could have sex, and have during the last 23 years (and it was the best sex of my life). If I found a woman I could trust, then I might get involved again. At this point, however, sex is nowhere NEAR worth the anxiety I would feel afterward (I know....I can hear the choir: "C.B.T.!!! Exposure, exposure, exposure....go, go go!":). Again, with the right woman, and a lot of work on my part, it might be possible. Frankly, it isn't worth the trouble, and certainly isn't worth the physical risk.

I'm scared of losing my sex drive to OCD. I just started learning about myself sexually and exploring that side but when my OCD is bad, I can't even consider anything sexual because it will trigger me.

OCD777JFN - are you serious man a mean no offence but i dont want to end up avoiding sex and being selibate - but id like to hear some1 say well ive had sexual intrusions i.e gay pedo rape or of violent content and came thru it and now has a good sex life. i dont wanna start avoiding girls or everytime i see one a think or her sexually be stiff with anxiety and fear that something bads gonna happen. Its pure shit

Hello Miller 23 -

You posted a question. I was answering it with my experience. If you read what I wrote, you will notice I said that, during my 23 years of having severe O.C.D., I had some of the best sex of my life. Things are just more troublesome at this point. Again, I didn't mean to trigger you, any more than other peoples' posts were meant to trigger me. As to "It's pure shit.", that is how it feels, at times However, S.T.D.'s are not make-believe.. And, I don't get "....stiff with anxiety" every time I see a woman, or think of her sexually. I was mainly speaking of having consensual, unprotected sex with a woman that one doesn't know well, and/or doesn't have a history of trust with. And by the way, "celibate" is spelled the way I just spelled it.

I have always had intrusive thoughts of homosexuality, paedophilia and rape since puberty. I had no idea what was going on and it naturally raised my anxiety level when I was nailed with the thoughts. The one thing I could do was rationalize the fact that when I looked at a pretty girl I was aroused, whereas if I was close to a guy (proximity wise not sexually) there was no arousal. More of an aversion.
I had fears of contamination bit these fears were overtaken once I had an erection and the teenage lad came to the forefront and I had only one thing in mind. Never did the thought of rape enter my mind when I was with a girlfriend. In fact the rape thoughts always followed a pattern that involved a stranger in a park at night. Very bothersome but easily controlled once the anxiety hit. I would count or run. Keep in mind I was not diagnosed at the time and I had no idea what was going on. Exercise helped me control my thoughts.
When I had steady girlfriends and eventually married the fears of contamination were still there, but sex rituals took over when we would both shower prior to having sex. Spontaneity would seem to be out of the question but it did occur at times.
All I can suggest is to go slow and not expect things to happen right off the bat and be patient with yourself. Also try to understand the anxiety and the numb feeling to better be able to overcome it or work with it. Eventually the sex drive will win out if you are patient, as difficult as it will be.
One other thing to consider is your meds. Are you on any meds that can dull your sex drive?