Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder, more specifically, an anxiety disorder. OCD is manifested in a variety of forms, but is most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive (repetitive, distressing, intrusive) thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or rituals) which attempt to neutralize the obsessions.
I'm posting this as I feel I need to tell anyone out there who might take a small something away from this tiny effort of writing...I've been with my husband for 7 years. We have now finially separated. I'm heart broken but I can't live this life anymore. I'm not his wife I'm his therapist. But I totally love him so very much. He doesn't truely realise this I'm sure. I've been begging him for past year to put his marriage (one young child) first. He's poorly yes I know this but I've only asked for very basic affection. Hand holding sit with me on sofa. Kind words He's ocd is thoughts and he's still working ok. But for the sake of our child I need to now find happiness. The constant upset depression arguing is worrying me because I don't want our child to grow around this. It's going to be a long hard emotional road (selling home etc) but I must. I've been on medication for stress and cried most nights due to feeling alone. Please please anyone with ocd and with or in a loving relationship as hard and unbearable it is for you (I feel for u) please do tiny steps to save your situation from a break up like ours. My dreams are shattered. Please don't allow your ocd to Distroy your life and dreams. Be brave seek help. Give your treatment 110% trust it will work and you can beat it. My husband has no strength to fight it or fight for me. Hes had therapy still is. Please don't allow ocd to not give you a life! Think one life. Live it and love it. Love and show love to your nearest and dearest. They your strength, trust me. I know I was his. Even though I was told I didn't help. For those of you living it as a wife/husband. If you're feeling like me and nothing is changing or has change think how many more years could you carry on? 5,10,20 for me many more.
I have a supportive spouse who helps me, but I have been known to see friends not stay.
I will pray for you and your family and I would encourage you to have your husband log on here to find help
But as a spouse we also have needs and we can't just give all the time..I wish I could just put my own needs aside but everyone needs basic needs for filling.
Also, seek out some therapy for yourself around the issue of codependence with a therapist who is very educated about OCD so you'll know how to foster as healthy of a relationship as possible between your child and your child's father. Cutting off contact between them could be extremely detrimental for both in the short and long runs.
If your spouse has never received a specific type of therapy known as Exposure Response Prevention Therapy, paericularly as part of an intensive outpatient program, see if you can find such and share the information. This is the only type of treatment with a strong correlation to improved functioning and quality of life. There is such a program at Behavioral Medicine Institute in Saint Louis (Missouri) that I know has been attended by people even from other countries. (As well, I know they train people from all over the world there.) Anyway, if you love him as much as you seem, I thought you might like to know. Bless you.