Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder, more specifically, an anxiety disorder. OCD is manifested in a variety of forms, but is most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive (repetitive, distressing, intrusive) thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or rituals) which attempt to neutralize the obsessions.

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Obsessive about idols

ReedNotRed
ReedNotRed
I'm not sure if anyone else has else has had this... But I'd consider myself a beta male - quiet, not aggressive, emotional, artistic - and I have never really had many friends, especially not any male friends... And sometimes when I meet somebody who I kind of idolize ( I. Guess I'm looking for a male role model) I start to become obsessed over them... I want to be like them, spend time with them, impress them, think like them, want to know everything about them... Which can be quite troublesome... And ultimately destroys the relationship..... Has/ does anyone else heard/ seen this???
BabyMonkey
BabyMonkey
Was ur father in you life? Maybe that has something to do with it. Also i am not sure how old you are. I myself ama a 22 yr old female who tends to seek attention from males which I have done since I was younger in school and I dont mean sexual attention. But seeking male attention to feel like I am cared about and loved and stuff. Well I know why I do it I just dont know how to stop. When I was younger I didnt get the attention that I needed from my dad so I had to go elsewhere for it which is what humans do. We seek what we are missing. But now I dont know how to stop. Sometimes I am negative with my bf just to get the attention and for some reason my brain relates a male being mad at me as them loving me. it's some messed up stuff but humans are complicated creatures.

Maybe in ur case you dont feel comfortable in ur own skin? Since you are trying to be like other males u idolize. Throughout our lives we have people we choose to look up to and try to act like the way they do cuz we see it as right or we are impressed by them. Idk there could be a lot of reasons you are doing it. Since it interfers with ur relationships have you thought about seeking counseling?
BabyMonkey
BabyMonkey
I just thought of this. At work today I was working with a woman who is always happy and very nice and caring person. Well with my anxiety/ocd and personality flaws I tend to be very negative and not outwardly care about people. Well i mean i care but not like those people you see that are over caring. To me that seems to be very attractive. When i was working with her I was feeling like i really wanted to be like her and being around her made me feel more postive about working and not have such a negative thinking pattern. One of my other friends at work is also one of those over caring people. I know they have there draw backs as being to caring u can get run over which i myself can with the way i am but that is just cuz i dont have a back bone. But getting to the point lately i have felt like i wanted to be like them and being around them helps to try to be that way. Still i am not sure if this relates to you but i just thought of it!