Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder, more specifically, an anxiety disorder. OCD is manifested in a variety of forms, but is most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive (repetitive, distressing, intrusive) thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or rituals) which attempt to neutralize the obsessions.

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pictureguy 01/05/2015

I have been with my girlfriend for 20 years. Ai have helped raise her children who consider me their dad! Lately I have constantly been obsessing wheather or not she is right for me. I cant stop thinking that we are not right for each other and I get annoyed so easily by her. Yet I feel that I love her and I get these thoughts with every girl ive ever had! I want to think of her just as a friend so I don't obsessed over her as much! Sometimes this worked but flatly intrusive thoughts have been bad!Anyone else obsessed over their relationship?

gramybear 01/05/2015

I asked a guy friend this question once and he couldn't answer it and ended the relationship which he later thanked me for. Do you truly love her and see being with her far down the road? If you don't, then you aren't IN love with her. You may love her, but that isn't the same. And if you don't, it is not fair to her OR the children to stay in their lives. She needs to get on with her life and so do you. I think a very long sit down talk is in order, and then after that, sit the kids down as well. Promise if you leave, the children understand and you don't just leave with them not understanding why because they will blame themselves. It could cause them to grow up with the fear of rejection and abandonment. But also, please don't stay if you are not in love with this woman. Hugs Gramybear

Flicka 01/06/2015

Twenty years is a long time and most relationships goes through hot-cold periods, no matter how strong they are. To me it sounds like a relationship worth fighting for, and by that I mean find out why you may be disconnecting from it and how to fix it if you want. Maybe see a relationship therapist one-on-one then with her about whats troubling you and find a way to talk about it with her without her freaking out. Exiting may be appealing but there may be no going back if you change your mind. You need to decide whether you want to risk losing her and her children to find that out. Alternatively you might separate amicably and maintain a good relationship with all of them, although it doesn't sound like that happens much. Good luck.

Fidgos 01/08/2015

I get this my girlfriend is amazing but I sometimes ruminate about whether I still love her, in all honesty I struggle to imagine not being with her but I still think these thoughts.

Is there any reason or rationae behind your thoughts or are they more typical anxiety/OCD type ofthoughts?

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