I have very little sexual desire. It is a big problem in my marriage. I have no idea why it is, for the most part I like sex, but I would rather do something else.

Toward the end of my marriage, especially, I would actually AVOID getting close. I would make up some excuse. Once the divorce was filed there was even a sense of relief that sex would no longer be an issue. I also don't think it was my husband, I love him and always will. There were may other reasons that we couldn't stay together. But even now, that is one major thing that keeps me from wanting to pursue another relationship. i joke to others that my "perfect" relationship woudl be a long distance one in which I never saw the other person. Then no sex and no interference in any of my rituals... ugh!

Similar but not exactly. I can get very close to my wife but really uncomfortable with other people. This can be hugging or touching, etc.

I dont know if im any help but a while back i watched at tv and the lady was trying to help a couple because a wife had the exzact feelings you had and she had never felt them before like she did but kissing her husband and doing anything efficationate would gross her out not becasue of him but the thought of it, although she still loved him, so like i said i dont know if im any help but people have struggled with this, and she was getting help and it was gradually helping i recall, Hope you find what your looking for, and if i remember the exzact show i will make sure to tell you, ~ash

For the most part i cannot kiss my boyfriend without wiping the kiss off. I never used to do that until about 3 months ago. I just cant stand the thought of it staying on my lips. My boyfriend says stuff about it but he understands. I also can not touch his hands unless we are walking. If we are walking or out somewhere i will hold his hand with no problem. But when we are at home sitting on the couch or whatever i canNOT hold his hand. I tend to wash my hands a lot like if i know i am gonna eat soon, touching certain things makes me have to wash my hands again. So i cannot touch his hands if i know in the near future i am going to eat or if i just washed my hands i cant touch his. It's really just the palm of my hand that bothers me. I also cannot touch his skin anywhere besides his arms, hands, and umm touch his... yea. I can do those things, besides the hands at times but other places i cannot touch without having to wash my hands immediately after. I was not like this in the very beginning of our relationship. I was totally fine like i would eat something that he bit off from or put in his mouth, i would touch his hands no matter what, i would rub his head with no problem and now i cant, i kissed with no problem but now everything is a problem. My bf isnt mean about it altho he does get frustrated at times but it is really frustrating for me too.

And about the sex thing, i dont have much of a libido. Sex to me is eh, i dont get much outta sex but pain. He is a bigger guy, average down there but his body is bigger in size so basically it's always me on top and my muscles are already tensed and there is no way for me to just relax cuz even me on top his hips are bigger than mine. So i just end up with pain and i tense more from that and end up in more pain, so sex for me is blah. But we do other sexual things which i like but it's a hit or miss with me feeling anything or not, sucks. And many times i'm just not in the mood. And i am young so that sucks but i heard that women get hornier as they get older and it is the opposite for men. Altho being horny alot would be annoying. But anyways, what i love is when my bf and i havent seen each other in about a week and i go to his place or pick him up or something and we hug or he puts his hand on my leg and WHOA holy horny lol. It is awesome, i love it. Just sucks that it takes being apart for a while to get that. Idk what's gonna happen when we move in together. I'll have to send him to a hotel for a week so when he comes back i'll be ready for him haha lol :P

could be your meds there meant to stop p.e and lower your sex drive. but your ocd could also cause low sex drive. im sure when the time comes youl want to hook up wi someone

Thanks for all the input... It helps to know that I am not alone although I hate to hear others have similar issues too. BabyMonkey... you made me laugh with the comment about making your bf stay in a hotel, creative! I guess the bright side is since I am single it is better to have no sex drive and an insatiable one!!

Thanks again, you each have helped me out!

I used to take Prozac, and that had the effect of lowering my sex drive. Now I take Luvox, and my sex drive is strong again. I had to just keep trying different meds until I found one that didn't have side effects.

Ofcourse meds may have nothing to do with it for you. There are many factors that could cause this issue. I have also thought that a long distance relationship might work better than a local relationship because I really like my independence.