Well there is no way to stop these thoughts. If you avoid dating u r only making your OCD stronger. What you have to do is date and if a thoughts come up just let it happen. it is only a thought and means nothing. We get random strange thougths all the time. It's like dreams, i am sure you have had some crazy dreams. I certainly have and many things I have dont in my dreams i would never do in real life. Thoughts are nothing more than thoughts. I fought a horrible obsession that just ended a recently. I suffered from HOCD (homosexualy ocd) where i fear i was, was turning, or in the future was going to be gay. I had a boyfriend at the same time which was horrible, i still have the same boyfriend. It was horrible especially cuz he moved all the was from california to ny for me. I was also in my senior yr of college all of last yr. The obsession started in the beginning of my fall semester. It did not help that i was taking a human secuality class so i was seeing vaginas all the time, listening to lectures about them and learning being gay/lesbian etc. I couldnt look at females, be near them or talk to them. I would constantly get thoughts telling me that i like them. My roomate was my best friend in college and i began to not even be able to talk to her. Well i would try but i couldnt really pay attention to the conversation as i was trying to fight the battling thoughts in my head. Screams of kiss her, you like her, you want to have sex with her. Horrible thoughts. I started to not be able to watch tv cuz every female i saw thoughts would scream in my head. I started to get feelings down there every time i thought of a girl, heard someone talking about a female or even just seeing a female on the side of my eye. I hated seeing scantally dressed females or even just a t-shirt and shorts. They needed to be dressed in pants and a sweatshirt to avoid the thoughts. Well avoidance didnt work. it made it worse. I was battling my worst obsession ever. So many times i thought i beat the obsession. I went through so many cycles. I would go a day or a week with nothing, thinking it was gone i would celebrate. Then i would get triggered and it would hit hard. But finally about a month or two ago it all stopped. I didnt do anything to make it stop it just happened. But i do know that you are not supposed to let the thoughts get to you cuz ur ocd just gains power. You cannot force ur thoughts to go away. I think really it just has to do it on it's own but there are ways you can help it. My other obsessions stopped on there own too. I think what helped me out with this obsession was my bf moved into an apartment so i became obsessed with that. I make sure it is clean like crazy clean when i am there. It doesnt make me feel like crap so it really isnt a bad obsession altho sometimes even if i see one thing wrong i have to fix it which is annoying. So i am in another obsession i would say but it is soooooo much better than the hocd, this is heaven compared to it. I havent been able to stop the obsessions from coming. I dont think that will ever happen. I think i will be fighting a lifetime of them but each one that comes i learn more and more about myself and my brain which really helps.

Anyways back to you, i really think you SHOULD start dating. I get crazy thoughts with everyone and it's always sick and twisted. like 30 mins ago i was outside helping my dad and i was getting crazy thought about him being naked, then me having sex with him, just really crazy annoying thoughts. They do not effect me too much as i know they are only thoughts but sometimes it makes me feel sick. Like i am really messed up. I get those kinda thoughts when i am around kids too. I think our brains tend to come up with thoughts of things that are frowned upon. People without ocd get thoughts like us too but we get them more often cuz we get stuck on them and cant let them go. Hope this helps and i didnt ramble too much :P

P.S- Sorry for all the errors

Also, i still do get thoughts like your gay or you like her but i actually have become a little more open to the thoughts. I recently talked to my friend and realized that it is common to get thoughts of girls and be ok with it. i think that it happens to girls more than guys or at least girls arent afraid to talk about it. My friend said that she probably could be with a girl altho she dosent really like down there, but she has a boyfriend and she is happy. She sometimes has to think of girls when she has sex just like boobs, but sometimes i get thoughts thoughts during sex so i have become more accepting of them and not scared of them. But i have a boyfriend and i am very happy and i would hate to not have a man and his ummm yea, lol. I have become more comfortable with my sexuality, being straight but i also have become more comfotable with getting thoughts of girls. my psychologist told me that there is not such think as straight and gay, we all sit on a spectrum. Girls can think another girl is hot, or a guy can think that another guy is hot and that is normal. Sometimes we are gay in little ways or may have an attraction to someone of the same sex. But it really comes down to who makes you happy. Yea you can be with whoever but it's really who makes you happy that counts. I am very happy with my boyfriend, I have fantasies/dreams about guys and having sex with them and i enjoy doing sexual things with my boyfriend. I had one gay dream before my obsession, then once my obsession started i got more of those dreams which made my obsession worse. But after my obsession lighted/went away they went away. Last night i did have a crazy dream about having sex with this guy who was trying to hurt me then later i had sex with a girl but she had a penis so i was like whatever lol. But when i woke up i wasnt freaking out about it being a girl. whatever it was a dream and it was one dream. I didnt even realize it til now as i am writing all this that i really have become so much more secure in who i am :) .... wow yea so after all that ramble i hope maybe that helped you in some way. Guess i just had to ramble to someone lol :P

Yea i can toally see where your comming from i have had gay obsessions aswell. i even told my mum i think im gay. It was horrible round friends. Ive also got fear of harming like i get thoughts im going to kill some or sexual attack them. I know ive just to ignore them but its the stress it puts you under when you socialise with people if your having a conversation then you start getting anxious. Its amazing how similar your obsessions are to mine aswell. ave had 1 that i want to have sex with my family or do things to young kids. I also have cleft lip and palate and it tends to pick on that sometimes aswell - its difficult to know if i actually think that about something or it just an intrusions cause im anxious. thanks very much for the dutch corrage. im away on friday to meet a girl ive not seen in 6years so il let you know how it plans out. cheers x

Great :) I'll be waiting to hear how it goes. Good Luck!!! :)