tell her you ll eat exactly as she does for the next 2 weeks...and I bet there ll be plenty of gravy ..sugar...cream....and probably 4 bottles of wine....:) some people are just skinny !
why cant "they" understand its like offering an alcoholic a drink three or more times a day and telling them not to drink...the world is a nutty place...
still
keep trying ...thinking of you :)

The problem with someone talking to you like that is that you will soon stop listening - its all very well telling you what to eliminate but why doesn't she get you to a nutritionist who will work out what you should be eating. Good luck cos I love the foods you love too!

I urge anyone who is overweight:-) to have their thyroid checked. When I first got sick both my Gyn and my Med. Doc. put my symtems off to me pause and when I insisted on having it checked after my heart was racing a mile a minute his response was it's not your thyroid but I told him you are gonna do blookwork anyway so chck it anyway-they were on the phone slamming me with heart medication and sending me to a end spec. Only 15% of Graves patients are over weight. I,m not taking anymore crap from them.

30 lbs is a great accomplishment. Congratulations! I do know how hard it is to give up favorite foods. Being raised in the south, I was weaned on good ole gravy, made with the fat from bacon, fried crisp in the pan. I certainly understand saying good bye to it all. Sadly, in everything there are choices and consequences for every choice we make.

As for me, I saw every relative I had die before the age I am now. Worse than that, they died after months of illness........ stroke, cancer, heart failure....... months of being in bed depending on someone else to take care of their every need. That's not the way I want to spend my last years, so have become much more careful about how I manage my health. Yes, I am overweight, and have begun being more serious about that part of the plan. I just see the alternative as too high a price to pay.

I totally agree with you about the thyroid thing, Snippy. A non-functioning or ill-functioning thyroid gland can reek havoc on so much of the way our bodies function.

Every single woman in my family on my mom's side has had problems with their thyroid gland. Mine was the most severe, and had to be removed in 2006. I'm fortunate I didn't go into heart failure. Since the surgery, even with thyroid replacement, it's been very, very difficult to lose weight. I have to try twice as hard now, for 50% of the results.

No matr how hard I try till they get me level it is gonna be up and down I just wish people would listen to us sometime. Just because we are overweight does not make us lazy or have low self-esteem. I ride on the truck with my husband I don,t drive but I stay up as long as he does I clean the inside everyday help fuel, slide trailer do all the cooking walk the dogs (3 Weenies). Plus all the walking from the back of the places we park to sleep cause we try and not part close so we can walk. Then when I go home work work my butt off in days to do chores and get ready for the next week. Here in Alabama where I live is not a whole lot of choices for docs unless I want to drive 90 miles and after driving all week don,t want to spend a whole daydlig that. Now to change course my husband bought me a tablet and I feel like l,m starting over again need some advise with anyone has on.

Last month I got the speech to not eat gravies,creamy sauces,no fried,no sugar and no bread. Does she really think a person can do this. So today I try again.

Yes...a person CAN do this !!! Unless someone has a gun up your head telling you what to put into your mouth or die,...then it IS A CHOICE !! Now, i NEVER said it was an easy choice.

As for Katishas' comment...i AM an alcoholic and i continue to socialize with people who do drink because they are still my friends and i CHOOSE not to drink. Do i sometimes feel like i would love to drink with them ? HELL YES ! But i CHOOSE not to anymore for my own health reasons. And believe me, i used to be a case of beer and a bottle of Jack every other night man !

I CHOOSE to get up at 0400 and go to my gym even though i don't have to because i don't work.

It's time we start taking accountability for ourselves and remember that ultimately it's up to us to make the right choices for ourselves !

Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin' !

You are right longhaul and it is an really battle for me, having graves disease does not help and riding on the truck doesn't help either. Even with braves it is up to me. I lost 32lbs in two months and then gained back 16 when they took my thyroid to low. I have given up sugar,salt and fried foods. About once a week I slip I'll be the first to admit. I go for more blood work next week we,ll see. Graves makes you lose muscle tone so I have started with small weights and walking short distance several times a day cause my legs give out but that is getting better.

longhaul, I have read your replies on many posts and just want to thank you for your honesty. I couldn't agree with you more on this post. I had an eating disorder for years and chose to get recovery. I choose every day, sometimes it comes down to every minute, how I will stay free of compulsive overeating/bingeing, purging, starving, etc. I have done them all. I looked 'normal' to a lot of people, but I was miserable and killing myself. I needed to get well for me. I choose life. It has been 22 yrs since I first sought recovery. I still work the 12 steps through OA, I still see a dietician when I feel the need to. I still check in with my therapist when I need to. These tools saved my life. And yes, I gave up gravies, sugar, processed food, fast food, and diet coke. the changes did not come over night. it was little by little. I eat whole foods, as close to the way God made them as possible. I feel like a different person and I love this person. I am not perfect, I do not make perfect food choices, but I strive to make progress. it does not matter what others do or think about who you are. make the changes for yourself. your life literally depends on it.
Snippy, you have made a huge accomplishment and seem headed in the right - just keep trying and have a support team in place.

Thanks Cal7 :) I will be first S.O.B. on this page to say that i love to eat and that i don't make all the right choices. Not to mention the fact that i live with two other morbidly obese women, one of which damn near INSISTS on continuing to slather everything she fries in butter and/or oil....but i eat it because we can't afford to make two meals and so i TRY to make it as healthy as i can and then resolve to do more cardio the next day. Yes, i do realize that if i ate properly at every meal, i would lose the weight more quickly..but like i said, i love to eat.

Like i said in another post,..i don't work (disabled vet) and so i'm a dedicated gym rat lol and my gym has a lot of fellow amateur bodybuilders and female figure and fitness competitors and we all talk and share things on facebook and keep each other motivated so that i'm surrounded by fitness and health minded people MOST of the time :)

Yes, it is all about choosing health and choosing life.

Our retirement community has started having a coffee klatsch Mon. thru Fri. mornings. Usually all that's there is the coffee, but yesterday someone had provided big, delicious-looking glazed donuts! Someone said to me, "Have a donut!" It would have been so easy to say "Why, thank you, I believe I will!" But instead I said, "No, I don't think so."

I have a friend (now an ex-friend) who is morbidly obese and eats all the wrong foods. Our friendship has soured and I believe it's because she's envious that I've lost 34 lbs. She is diabetic, has heart failure, COPD (from her former smoking), and is constantly in the hospital. She almost died recently. Yet she chooses to eat as if she is "immortal".

Making the right choices IS TOUGH, BUT SO WORTH IT.

It is harder for some people to be able to always make a wise decision. I mean none of would be here if we had not made the wrong decision in the first place. I would not turn my back on someone if they lost weight or not.

Some people just don't understand. Doctors are right to tell us to cut down on things but, what the"I have always been skinny" doctors don't understand is how hard it is. Whatever you do don't give up!

No I won't ever give up, with me having Graves disease it just makes it three times as hard but someday between my end doc and Me, I will get it right and if I don't then love me as I 'am.