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Trying to gain will power

blessed19
blessed19
I am trying so hard to lose this weight! IT IS SO HARD to stick to! Everytime I do start a diet I end up failing. This time I have to stick to it because if I dont I will be 300 pounds I am already 250. This is ridicolous. Ive only been this way since the birth of my son in June of 08 just havent lost the baby weight yet. Before that i was 168 pounds. I have about 100 pounds to lose. I have developed mild sleep apnea and high blood pressure because of my weight. I am always out of breath and just tired ALL the damn time. My doctor keeps telling me the blood pressure and sleep apnea will go away if you lose weight. i went to Lane Bryant yesterday and could not beleive how expensive they are. Its like just because its plus size its expensive as hell. That is another reason i want to lose because I cant shop and I love to shop. I used to be at the mall every weekend. I am only 24 and I am so insecure with myself. I just need the will power to eat right and exercise so this weight will come off. Please HELP ME
soulsearcher83
soulsearcher83
I feel your pain. I am about 250 now. I don\'t have children but I want to one day and I can\'t do it at this weight. I can\'t do anything I used to enjoy at this weight. Yes Lane Bryant is not cheap. All plus sizes are more expensive than "regular" or "petite". It\'s a load of crap. I don\'t care if they say it\'s because of the need for more material. A small and large have different material needs but the same price.

Ok I\'m over the shopping rant. Needless to say I can relate. Don\'t give up. It\'s hard but it is doable. I\'ve been trying to learn that patience with myself and my body is what is required to not give up and throw in the towel. I\'ve also learned that starting at a lower level than I used to be able to do (playing tennis verses going for walks) is needed to get me to where I really want to be (playing tennis and kicking a$$ at it).
deleted_user
deleted_user
I\'m at 246 my self was at 265 a couple of months ago..I was stressing out about getting to that 300 mark and since I\'m disable and can\'t exercise I finally took a good look at myself and l I realized I like me..I would like to be skinny and wear tiny little clothes but If I never get little oh well, I\'m still going to be me..
since then I still eat the same, No sweets since I have never cared for them, and am losing weight..my doc said I was doing good on my diet, I said what diet..I just quit stressing out over being fat.. I believe stress, worry, being emotional can actually cause some people to gain weight,,Now I leave it in God\'s hand and don\'t worry about it
Tammy
deleted_user
deleted_user
I\'m 350lbs at 23 and it\'s depressing... I\'m convinced I\'ll have a heart attack before 30 at this rate, and though I have all the motivation in the world (possible death, looking good, my daughter, more energy, higher self-esteem, etc), I can\'t seem to get the will power to get off the couch and DO something about it. Some people say keeping your goals written down in plain sight, but that hasn\'t worked for me. I don\'t know of any foolproof plan, but I\'m here if you need someone to talk to! Support - rather, being accountable to someone (like telling your weight and having to \'fess up\' when you make mistakes) is one of my ideas on making this work. Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Someone once suggested taking nude photos of myself but I don\'t know if I could stand that!!! LOL

I\'m trying to build up motivation as well. I hope we can help motivate each other!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am 23 and I haven\'t had children yet, but I am 240 pounds. I\'ve gained 50 pounds since last May. I stayed in the hospital for a little over 3 weeks and the food there KILLED me. When I got home, I just started eating all the same foods because I was craving them--carbs, carbs, carbs, soda, ice cream, ugh.

I make myself mini goals on DS and I try to abide by them and challenge myself. I also started a support group called Weight Loss Buddies. People sign up for a buddy and are matched at the end of the month for a new buddy for the next month. I\'m starting to get even more active in that group and a lot of people have told me it\'s helping.

Tomorrow I will go to my first TOPS meetings. Do you have a Weight Watchers or a TOPS in your area that you can be a member of? TOPS is significantly less expensive than WW.

And, I hate the word DIET. Ugh, nasty little four letter word. Instead of saying diet, I say lifestyle change and it does motivate me more.

Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I haven\'t ever been able to stick with anything and have always wanted to lose weight quick. The first few times, I was successful at some crash diets. Now, I am heavier than I have ever been with no motivation to crash diet or diet at all. I started by keeping a food journal. I didn\'t put any pressure on myself to eat any less. I just made myself write it all down. I went from eating between 3000-5000 calories a day to 1900. Now, 1900 doesn\'t seem so hard. Writing it down made me face what I was eating, so it wasn\'t so mindless.

As far as Lane Bryant, sign up for their emails. They will send you coupons for $25 off a $75 purchase, or $15 off a purchase of $15 or more. I go in and buy my blue jeans using these coupons. I always save up until I plan on spending at least $50 at a time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am right with you, sister. I weight 248 the last I checked. I\'m 44 years old with two small children (age 6 1/2, twins). I struggle daily to keep up with bare bones minimum. I have gotten back into exercise at Curves For Women three times a week, so that\'s a positive step. I\'m going through all of the required medical/psychiatric consultations for lap band surgery in August.

It\'s a hard journey, but if you take care of yourself, the going will be a lot less hard.

Basically, I\'m doing this so I don\'t have my first cardiac event by the end of my 40s (that\'s when my own father started with all of his cardiac issues)...

Best wishes. Peace. Keep the faith.