Obesity Support Group

This community is dedicated to those of us struggling with obesity. Obesity is thought to be a significant risk factor in certain health conditions, leading to increased mortality. Find the support you need by sharing your story, asking questions, and learning from others on how they have coped.

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Jaxswife4ever 09/07/2009

I have been a member of ds for awhile now, but I havent been online in a couple of months. My weight loss buddy or buddies that month were no where to be found, so I gave up. But I digress.

What I am about to write may be taken negitivly, but I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT ANYONE OR PASSING JUDGEMENT. I am a waitress and I would see regulars come into my job frequently. Some of the regulars were severly obese, and I mean severly. Some to the point where they could not walk. I ust to wonder at what point did they go to sleep and not relize that they were getting that obese. I am about 230, and I know that I myself am obese. When did I go to sleep and not relize what was going on.

I watch a show today about the obesity clinic and relized that if I dont get it together, then that could be me, and I dont want that. I want to be healthy for my family and myself. I want to feel better, and I want to be able to do the same things that more slender people are able to do. I am starting my new health plan tomorrow, and I am wondering if anyone would be able to check in and chat with me each day, usually around this time. It is easier to loose weight with a buddy.

deleted_user 09/07/2009

I would love to become your buddy and check in with you each day.. You're so right, it is much easier to stick to eating healthy when you have someone supporting you and someone to support in return..I'm sorry you had a negative experience with your previous buddy but sounds like you were unlucky, most of the people here are great and so supportive.. I weighed 235lbs when I joined in june and now weigh 208.. So let's lose it together... I'm game if you are

deleted_user 09/08/2009

Hey you guys got room for another? I find it hard sometimes to work out by myself, and with no one around really to talk to about it, it's easier to fall off the bandwagon so to speak.

Jaxswife4ever 09/08/2009

I think that is a wonderful idea!!!!! Congragulations on your weightloss, that is a major loss number. I can usually do ok during the day, but once the night falls, I usually crave everything and I do mean everything. I never feel full, so binge eating to me is just eating. I think with all of us working together that we can all acomplish our goals.

deleted_user 09/08/2009

I'm in along with Keisha! (Dang Girl, You're pretty!)
I know what you mean about nightfall.
I wake up and feel good - have all of this new motivation for the day, and then just past dinner.... I'm sooooooo screwed!

Is anyone else think that the inventer of the dollar menu at Mickey Ds and BK ought to be shot!?

It has been way too easy for me to fall prey to the TV advertising of that dude with the "embarrassing little hands" needing to hold a Whopper Jr.
"Whopper Jr.? That sounds GREAT!" And off to BK she goes.
2 nights ago I ordered 3. On the way home I saw a homeless person and had such a case of the guilts, so I stopped and gave him one. That STILL left 2 for me!
Last night, 2 more.

This has GOT to stop!

Man, I can't wait for the new season of The Biggest Loser so I can have that evening motivation!

239 and holding ~

Cath

deleted_user 09/08/2009

Welcome back Jaxs, I wondered where you went. I have seen the same things when eating in a restruant. I can't say much against them because I was 247 but am trying to lose. I have a local support group and DS tthat helps alot. Good luck to us all.

deleted_user 09/08/2009

Hi Girls,
Check in time for today... How are you all going? i think it's that dreaded evening time that's the biggest problem for most of us... How about we set ourselves a team challenge and promise each other we are going to have a healthy dinner, then not eat anything other than fruit or vegies for the rest of the evening...Let's try it for today and see who can rise to the challenge... Come on... you can do it...it might be carrot sticks you munch on,cook extra vegies and eat them later on in the evening, an apple, canned fruit for dessert with no sugar added, anything you like...who's up for it? Let's report back...Stay strong and choose health and weight loss instead of how good you think that burger or whatever is going to taste, it very rarely tastes as good as you think it's going to anyway...remember a second on your lips, forever on your hips....lol... i know..it's an oldie, but a goodie...

missina 09/08/2009

Hi Jax, I just wanted to answer your question for you, because I am probably one of those people who could barely walk into the restaurant. We don't just go to sleep and not realize we're obese. It's called denial. We become skilled at avoiding mirrors and cameras. We know we are fat, but denial keeps us from seeing the extent of our disease. I personally saw myself naked in a mirror after avoiding them for several years and I was shocked at what I saw. I thought to myself "how did that happen?". I think others must have had similar situations. I guess that doesn't help anything. I just felt compelled to answer that.

deleted_user 09/09/2009

you feel that way because internally you dont feel obese but when you look in the mirror and the medical charts; you are. its a reality check and trust me, you will not do anything about it unless you push yourself. if you really really want it, youll have it. Believe me, ive been overweight all my life and im only 21 years old. One day i just woke up and it all clicked in my head. i just had a moment of clarity and motivation and from that day its great. im running, losing weight and lifting weight and my body is changing. People are complementing me on how great I look. Am i thin yet? No. I have a longgggg way to go...and yes it seems so far away but everyday is a progress and you must keep that in mind. Every single thing you do to change your life will help your life. You will have your occasional mental breakdowns, i still have them. but this is all about the process. weight loss and obesity is not a numbers game, it truly is psychological. you have to look within yourself and admit what youre in denial about and start from there. the ugly truth from yourself will only help you. So if you need a buddy, i am here for the ride. xoxo.

jeanne36roses 09/09/2009

I guess I am still in the denial stage in my life.I've been trying to watch what I eat lately because when I go back to the doctor on the 18th, I want to be able to fit on the scale(scales only go up to 350). So I dont really know how much I weigh.

deleted_user 09/10/2009

i would love to join in on this weight loss adventure. got room for one more?

missina 09/10/2009

always room for one more. jump on in!

deleted_user 09/11/2009

Buddy systems works....! I also found a great resource today
ww.myweightworld.com. You can chat with friends, weight loss doctors, dieticians etc

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