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So, I walked to my Auntie's house. We all live in the same neighborhood mostly.
And she was like "Wow. You gained weight! You used to look so good. I always saw you walking up and down the hill"
And I was like"Duh. I gained 50 pounds since I stopped working!"
But I didn't say that.
She said it only looks like I gained 10-15 pounds.
Well, she's not the only family member to tell me i gained weight.
My grandma on my dad side told me "Rebecca! You gained weight! " In a joking manner. I laughed but inside I was thinking " you are supposed to be a kindly grandmother, baking me cookies"
Actually, I do say that to BOTH my grandmas.
They just laugh.
I have no idea why I attract guys. They are mostly fat themselves.
For some reason, I like CHUBBY guys. Not FAT guys.
There is a difference.
I feel like I'm a Cute Fat Girl. I can pull someone better than a fat guy.
But, chubby guys are after skinny girls.
What do I have to offer?
I'm bipolar and fat.
Sorry for the pity party.
I don 't tell this to my friends because they get irritated.
Just a side note: Since I started taking my anxiety meds, I've been more easy-going and am making friends now.
Maybe it's because I'm in college now.
Anyway, I hope someone replies to this!
And she was like "Wow. You gained weight! You used to look so good. I always saw you walking up and down the hill"
And I was like"Duh. I gained 50 pounds since I stopped working!"
But I didn't say that.
She said it only looks like I gained 10-15 pounds.
Well, she's not the only family member to tell me i gained weight.
My grandma on my dad side told me "Rebecca! You gained weight! " In a joking manner. I laughed but inside I was thinking " you are supposed to be a kindly grandmother, baking me cookies"
Actually, I do say that to BOTH my grandmas.
They just laugh.
I have no idea why I attract guys. They are mostly fat themselves.
For some reason, I like CHUBBY guys. Not FAT guys.
There is a difference.
I feel like I'm a Cute Fat Girl. I can pull someone better than a fat guy.
But, chubby guys are after skinny girls.
What do I have to offer?
I'm bipolar and fat.
Sorry for the pity party.
I don 't tell this to my friends because they get irritated.
Just a side note: Since I started taking my anxiety meds, I've been more easy-going and am making friends now.
Maybe it's because I'm in college now.
Anyway, I hope someone replies to this!
Family is a broken mirror. They have no idea how you feel when they say things like that. Maybe they would like to help you, not because you are chubby, but because they see it influences your self-esteem.
I have really serious problems with accepting my body so my best advise to you: try to love who you are and then you can face anybody and you can hold your head high. Such comments won't touch you.
I would say, don't restrict yourself to any type or physical features. You never know who you will meet and you don't want to miss out on getting to know someone simply because of a silly physical thing.
And also, in my experience it does get better. School and college suck, nobody wants to be there. When you get older and you can choose where you are and what you do, you get to meet a much wider range of people. You can try and get started early by doing activities outside school, maybe volunteering somewhere locally or pursuing a hobby.
As for your family, have you told them that it hurts when they make these comments?