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My brain realizes that my relationship that ended was unhealthy for the both of us, but my heart won't let the pain go. I hold it close like all the pain and hurt is my best friend. I've slowly been making improvements in my life. I have a job doing what I went to school for, the money still isn't great, but I have a new place and my life is the most stable it's ever really been as an adult. I want to continue to make improvements in my life, but I can't let go of the pain and the depression set in to the point where I just question how much I care, about anything, really. I'm in the middle of quitting smoking and would like to use the momentum to make changes to my weight, but it all seems impossible until I get out of the shadow of this breakup. I think about her far too much and the future I thought we had. I think I'm close to letting her go, but how do I let the pain go? Any thought or advice would be appreciated.
Well, I have been through 1 very nasty breakup and am currently dealing with 1 that's been over for about 5 months.
What I can tell you is that (and i need to take my own advice here) the pain does indeed fade but it takes time, a positive attitude, the will to make it through, and support from friends, family, and people like you see here on this website.
I know what you're going through. The feelings of inadequacy, the feeling that nobody else will want you and clearly something was terribly wrong with you for your ex to leave you.
Now, I won't say nothing is wrong with you, because we all have our vices. I don't know the circumstances around your breakup but they honestly don't matter much in the long run. If you feel like you have glaring imperfections there is NO better time to fix them than right now. Those negative emotions you harbor are a powerful motivator to change what you don't like in yourself but you have to get your mind in the right place, and remember you are changing these things for YOU not anybody else.
You need to feel good about yourself again, find out what makes you unique, what makes you YOU, and most importantly, find the things that maybe you don't like about yourself and work on changing them. Remember, your emotions can be an invaluable tool to motivate yourself with but you have to get there first.
I'm looking forward to seeing how you progress and I hope this helps a little. Good luck sir.
I am sorry you are going thru this. Relationships are tough, no matter what our age and how they break up.
Now is the time to focus on you. Eat healthy, enjoy work or school, and try hobbies or activities that interest you.
Take care.
Years later we have both moved on well, but it wasn't until I gave myself that space to adapt to who I wanted to be on my own, before I could even consider any kind of healthy adult relationship.