cause they have probs of their own their avoiding

Everyone comes in all shapes and sizes..... if you are happy with yourself then don't worry about what others think. Denise

America is the home of the fat because we, as Americans, have made it so easy TO be fat. Whether you're fat or obese or skinny or in shape or WHATEVER, is a matter of choice, period !! Do i think choosing to be obese is a bad choice? Yes i do for many reasons which are obvious. People come down on others because they are insecure about one thing or another. Fact of the matter is, we are all different and noone has the right to insult or berate anyone else for what they can or cannot do. I know a woman at my gym whos a fitness competitor and i swear to God she wears me out just WATCHING her train lol but when we talk we laugh because altho i can't run a marathon like she can, she can't bench press over 500 pounds like i can lol
As far as the general public is concerned. I get looked at all the time where i live. Most of it is from awe, some is from disgust. I enjoy and say thank you for the compliments and for the most part those who don't care for it keep their mouths shut, which is for the best. I don't personally like looking at morbidly obese people myself, but i don't judge them because i have no clue what their story is and whether or not they want to be that way is neither my business nor my decision.

When I read your initial question, this is what I heard. You asked WHY when there are so many other people even MORE obese than you, do others come down on YOU. In other words, you feel singled out.

It infuriates me when that happens to me. I feel like saying, "Go pick on someone else. I've already lost 100 lbs.!" But actually no matter what I weighed at any time in my life, people seemed to pick on me.

Did you ever think that maybe some people are ENVIOUS of something you have or they think you have? For example, I am 64 and 3 years ago moved into a bldg. where a lot of the women are quite elderly. It didn't take long for these biddies to start criticizing my weight. Maybe they are envious of my (relatively speaking) YOUTH? Also, I still have a mother living (she's 91). They don't. Something else I have that inspires envy.

The Bible says "Anger is bad enough, but before envy, who can stand?" Sometimes I wish I could wipe the earth clean of envious, gossipy, critical, empty-headed women, but of course I can't. Just gotta live with it.

Strangely, the insulting comments come from guys that are total strangers. It puzzles me because I dress modestly, I wear a long skirt and a loose fitting top and jacket. I have see women many times that wear jeans and short skirts that reveal there celulite thighs, I can see where guys would be sickened at the sight. I have lost some weight in my hips but nobody would notice that. I seldom have woman criticize me, maybe because they know what a struggle weight loss is. Guys seem more focused on body, many are athletic and go to gyms.

I think a lot of it has to do with how the media and society are today and the insanity to be perfect. If you are a size 12 now a days they consider it a plus size. I also think those that bully people who are overweight are very afraid of the people they abuse because deep down they know it could happen to them and it terrifies them.

I'm sure the others are getting comments too, you just notice the ones directed at you. I have a friend who is about the same size as I am, only a little taller. She has such confidence in herself that she seems to come across as so much more beautiful. That is why I feel so singled out when I'm around her. But she says she feels singled out because her boobs are smaller than mine. I honestly think it's all in the self-confidence and the insecurities you see in yourself.

If a total stranger comes up to me and makes a comment related to my weight I find it offensive because they don't know me or my situation and it's presumpious. They probably do it because I look harmless and they're not worried that I might bash them in the face.

It's horrible that people make comments to you about your weight and it is quite obvious a problem of theirs not yours.

That being said I have to say a lot has to do with confidence. And as Brokensun said we are much more likely to notice slights against our-self rather than another person.

Be proud of who you are Donna and ignore the ignorant whenever possible.

Donna,
Don't let them get to you. I too have this problem and sometimes it can ruin a perfectly good day. People who judge others will one day be hudged themselves and only then will they understand the hurt they have caused.
Peace be with you friend.