Im so sorry you are still hurting so much, mentally and physically. Your swimming once a week is really good! Just keep that up and be mindful of what you put in your mouth. It will all work itself out as long as you keep at it!

Hi TC40:

So sorry you are having a rough patch.

We cannot change the past, but we all strong enough to change the future.

Please start by loving yourself. You are a great person, strong, and do want to make life better for yourself.

Start with mini goals. Just change a few things first. Can you walk? Just start by taking a few extra steps. You don't need a gym membership. There are so many items around our home that work great.

Do you have a dr. If you do maybe see a dietician or nutritist, or even the dr for a balanced meal plan that can help you obtain your goals.

You are important and worth it. I am sure little changes will make you feel better. Each day start new. If you slip up, just start over and don't beat yourself up.

Please come back for support and let us know who you are doing......we do care and help each other. We all want to be healthy and of course with less pain....(hugs)

Good morning TC40. I too am feeling your sorrows. I pray that God watches over you and eases your pain. I believe that he sees beauty in you and loves you just as you are, and I pray that you feel the same. I also agree with retiredrose. So let us all pray that we receive the strength to change the future. I have a health coach to help me in my endeavor to lose wieght. I sometimes just walk in place in my home when I feel it's too cold to walk outdoors. I also drink green smoothies to help me control my urges to eat. Nuts are good also for curbing the appetite, but be careful not to eat too many. Have you tried other support groups such as OA? Please keep trying. And we are here for you for encouragement. And I will be praying for you.

retiredrose had some great advice! So did flowers!
I cant stand for very long due to back pain but I bought the cheapest stationary (recumbent) bike that walmart had. I barely can do a mile at a time but I think of it this way 3 miles a week times 4 weeks. Thats 12 miles! 12 miles!! Thats huge! You could buy one on online and have it delivered to your house if you are self conscious about getting one at the store.
We just need to find what we can do and do it. Like I said before your swimming is AWESOME!! Keep that up!

Let me add some gentle hugs, and lots of support. I so understand about pain, and am sorry you are dealing with so much of it. The ladies above me, have given some good advice, so let me just say to look at what you are doing well right now. Congrats on your swimming, that is wonderful !! Small changes one day at a time, you can do this, you are not alone.

Thank you all soooo much!!

Have tons of love and sympathy hon. Is there any possibility you could get a friend to take you swimming several times a week? Even if you just went to they gym and sat in the steam room, soaked in the hot tub, and then floated around in the pool, it might help with the pain, which then might let you do exercise at home.

Also, my back and sciatic nerve hurt a lot so some days my exercise program involves me lying on the couch taking turns clenching each muscle group in my body as hard as I can, holding it for a few seconds, and then relaxing. It burns a few calories, and seems to help me with the back pain.

Anyway please don't give up, I know you can find some tiny little changes that will help with the pain enough that you'll be able to make bigger changes later.

I am sorry to hear you in so much pain... I highly recommend to get your deep depression stable first and do some walking..You can walk indoors and start small...YOU can do this and fight that depression mindset in you..YOU are much stronger and I believe in you can do this and make it happen.

I am over 400 Lbs and have chronic pain...I do not stop me and had dealt with depression and its mind over matter..I can not become depressd, since I care for my disabled sister and aging mom and I truly believe that fitness counts!! I take Aleve and that helps with my ankle pain, heel pain and my sciatica..and I push myself on walking more and taking care of myself because my family depends on me now.

Start walking indoors, begin 10 min and build up..I guaratee you will feel better.. Never give up hope or yourself...You are worth it..Good luck!! (((((hugs)))))

Liliann

Hey dear, I'm really sorry for your condition. Your habit of swimming is really great. However, if you have tried everything and still facing soooooooo much of a problem, I think you must go in for a weight loss surgery. It's not the easy way out but just a good remedy to such a life. CODS India is a good clinic I know that is very helpful to its patient. They won't rush you to surgery but will first counsel and know if you really need to undergo this surgery. You can contact them at http://www.codsindia.com