Wow!! That confuses me!

Rant away, my dear! Happy to listen!

Hugz

You always need to be patient if you would like to find your soul mate and you need to be even much more patient if you use a dating site as help. They are full of jerks, that's the truth. So all the women meet problems there.
Well, I can totally understand that it disturbs you, though.

In my experience dating websites are mostly full of losers, and specialist BBW websites will be more likely to attract feeders/other weirdos. I would avoid those. Focus on yourself as a whole person, not just as a fat person. Think of who you are and what you enjoy and base things on that rather than on one physical aspect.

Personally, I would forget about dating as such. Just try new things you might enjoy, go to meetup groups, socialise generally and be open to new friends. Maybe, one of those friends might turn into something more. Maybe not. But at worst, you will have had fun and made friends and people are more attracted to others who are happy and open and who share their interests.

Yikes... I had bad experiences with dating websites and not getting any guys liking me because I was heavy. (Or so I thought, anyway, who really knows.)

I can imagine that those BBW sites would draw a less-than-savory element. (Don't have a personal experience on that one -I never tried, I didn't realize that was a "thing" when I was doing online dating.)

I think Lizzie's idea is a good one. Get out and do stuff and meet people! I joined a book club and a wine tasting group recently and have really been enjoying myself. Volunteer work is good for that too. That initial "hurdle" of appearances will already be jumped because they will know what an awesome person you are from being your friend. Heck, even if you don't meet someone in your activity, you never know who has a friend or a brother. :) And you'll be doing something for YOU which we women do not do enough!!!

Thanks ladies for your replies. :) Yes, some of the guys on this one particular site definitely seem to be feeders. That is NOT what I'm looking for. Just thought it might be a better way to meet guys that I KNOW are attracted to "bigger girls".

That being said it's not the only thing I rely on to meet guys. And to be honest I've never actually met anyone from that site. :) They were always kinda far away. lol Anyways....I put dating on hold for over 4 years. Then a few years ago decided to try again. It's been almost a year again since I've tried. I go through phases where I focus on ME. (Every girl should.)

Thanks for the advice about getting out & doing things. I do go out & do social things whenever I can. :) I'm not shy & I speak my mind. I've just got to open my mind to new possibilities!

Thanks again for listening.....

This thread struck a chord for me... I have never, ever dated. Not once. I'm too ashamed of my body and I've never even allowed myself to consider it. I can't imagine that anyone would ever want to date me so I've shut it out entirely. I actually consider myself asexual, though my therapist thinks that I'm just suppressing because of trauma stuff and body concerns.

Anyway, I hope you find someone who loves and cares for YOU, whether you're 300 pounds of 150 pounds of 500 pounds. You deserve all the best, and I'm sure you'll find it somewhere.

Awwww, thanks Callie. :) I hope you find someone too who will make you feel comfortable enough to open up to the possibility of dating. :)

No, I meet the guys who claim to like bigger girls and then when I meet them they don't like me because Im a bigger girl. I don't know what they thought, I was completely honest with them with how much I weigh.. so I just don't date anymore.. I can't take it

Hi. :) I just joined here today, so I'm looking around at the posts. I just wanted to comment because I feel the exact same way! I'm a bit shy at first, so online dating helps me a bit. I've met a few nice guys online at BBW sites, or so I thought, until I was told I wasn't a "supersize" BBW. My brain couldn't compute this since I'm "too fat" for most people. Now I'm too small for others?

I had hoped joining a BBW online dating site would alleviate the problem of talking to someone who seems genuine and interesting and then getting signed off on or blocked when they find out I am not a size 0. Is it too much to ask for guys to like us because we're smart and fun to be around? *sigh*

Has anyone reading had a good experience on an online site, be it for BBWs or not? I'd be interested in hearing about it. :)

Sorry to hear that Purdy....at this point I'm not even sure if I WANT to date anyone. Not always worth the heartache.

Stargaze...I know how ya feel honey!!

Aw my former husband goal is to c n have sex with all the different shapes height colors. And that he did.
He says I was his throf. wife. But his inner want is a fat woman. he so prefers woman that are 300 n up to 550. his GF's do not weigh less than 250/300 lb.'s
I was size 1 when I married at age 28. last years of marriage due to abuse I gained and gained and gained. not to get him to want to keep me but because I had gave up. I tossed in towel of life.
With a lot of hard work, the woman within reappeared
There is someone for everyone.
I knew of my man for 20ty years. then over 4 year period we got to know each other before we called ourself a couple in love.
It takes time to get to know someone.
Everyone I know buy a house together as investiment. but house is actually be their home together but if they don't wish to continue in love relationship, will they have investiment.
Both work to pay house laon. make payment for 4 + years. during that time they get to know each other.
Get around to seeing person at church get together and with famiy and mall... to see how he acts. yes call his x. ya x will more than likely bash but you will be able to pull out truth as being truth based on what you have seen yourself.
I'm 1 and whole person. 2 halves don't make a whole.
Dress up get n have self confidents be good to yourself buy yourself gifts. this is easier said than done but if we work to achieving goal of giving a ___ about our self, about our own life.
Get and stand strong doing so is heathy and also will draw people to you. just be picky. reach for sky when it comes to date/friend/ friend w benefits mate and anybody that you invite to spend time together...
Oh I just thought of this. my formor when we wre still in love. raise up off me and as he did so he looked in my eyes and said "you are so skinny it is like fun_ing a chicken", lol
there is someone for everyone.
I hope that this makes some type of since that will be benifitual.
Mirrow mirrow on wall who the fairest of them all. I am. it's in my heart that shows and shine above the physical appearance.
I wan't a heathy life style and to have good quality of life and to live to be 104.
X's

I've been with the same partner for 10 years (less 4 days), and so I have no idea about the dating lingo - what is feeder?

I stopped dating a lonnnnnnnggggg time ago. I have no desire.