I know how you feel ... the last thing I feel these days is sexy. I have the magically disappearing toes. All feet right into my calves ... not even the decency to have ankles. High heels and great legs are a thing of the past.

Zyta I have one pair of sexy stilettos that I wear my watch TV thing of my boyfriends is not around at the moment. I can't walk in them, I can't even stand in the but on those days when I need to feel sexy putting on the shoes turns me in to Cinderella

For me the shoes or physical therapy for my brain!!!.

I love shoes, still do. I love to look at the advertisements for all kinds of high heels and platforms. To me a woman can't have too many shoes. However, since being dxed with MS, I actually had a mourning service for my shoes. I cleaned out my closed of all my high heels, sitting on the ground, reminiscing over each lovely pair I pulled out to give away. It was a grieving process I had to go through in order to feel okay about my shoes that I now wear (tennis shoes, flats).

Of course, with our feet we can do nothing. Just wear nice fluffy socks when you are with your boyfriend. Make it a point to buy a couple of really nice pairs of socks you only wear in your boyfriend's company.

sorry, closet, I cleaned out my closet of all my shoes. Sorry for the typo!

I wish I could wear "normal" shoes, I have got a cam boot/moon boot on right foot & orthotic support inside left foot whit carbon fibre at back. I have to wear trousers all the time as otherwise the shoes show & also if I wear long skirt dangerous to walk as tread on it so can only do it when using wheel chair which is more now.
I tried to wear a nice gold & silver open toe sandal for a formal night on last cruise & had to go back to the cabin to change them at a break as they hurt so much bit looked like they would be ok.
NEVER think feet are a trivial thing as when they go bung they can be very painful & hard to get fixed. If you break them they fix quickly but if other issuses nit counted as urgent. Well here anyay
Sorry for gripe but feet ar very touchy to me at moment as having so much problems.

I assure you allicat9375 he is NOT looking at your feet! This is the image we have of ourselves and after dealing with this monster for many many years I still have not accepted what it has done to my body. Sex is NOT the same but it is still sex and it is still intimacy and I long ago threw away all my shoes and my constant companions are tennis shoes (Sketchers makes a very cute and feminine pair of slip ons with sparklies and low cut but with support) so you kind of feel like a girl. I know the cold toe thing as well and cold feet and I can't stand socks on my feet so I am doubly blessed as they say. I have come to rely on my sherpa slippers even in the summer until then my feet get too hot. Too cold, too hot just never "right" but on the plus size - your boyfriend still sees YOU and wants to have sex with YOU so close your eyes, imagine the old YOU and enjoy the moment. As for feeling sexy, that has long since past for me as my feet are ugly, my body disfigured from the shots and just plain tired of having this disease but life goes on with or without sexy shoes! So be Cinderella whenever you can as we only get one chance at this life so I say take it and do with it what you will before you hit the give up cycle.

I love the post #2 and #6. I love the idea of sitting in a pair of hot shoes. And yes, no man is looking at our feet. We might be though. I am right there with you all. Sexy, what's that. My husband still thinks I am. I can't stand to see myself undressed. I guess God gave him blinders. But that is part of life. We all lose our looks eventually my Granny says. And what is inside is what matters. But I too, miss having great legs, great shoes, and feeling really good.

Thanks for this post. I have this problem but I do not think that it is as bad as yours. One thing that I notice that helps is eliminating salt from your diet as much as possible.

My primary care doctor was worried about my ankles so he tested me for various things and found out that I had nothing so prescribed me compression hose. I ordered them last week and am waiting for them to come in. Turns out everyone at the medical supply store wears the compression hose (15-20) and they love them because it makes it easier on their feet to walk all day. So anyway, it will really help the swelling so I would recommend compression hose. Good luck!!

The saleslady who I ordered them from said that when she eats out on a holiday and forgets the hose, her feet really swell up so I would recommend eliminating the salt, fast food and wear compression hose. Can't wait for mine to come in.