Multiple Sclerosis (MS) Support Group
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my mom asked me to fill up a vaporizer for her room, i said sorry i cant cuz my arm's weak and hurts pretty bad, i explained why i couldnt and said sorry, then she said "you're so lazy why cant you help with anything" and did it herself
keep in mind, im taking 17 credit hours, working, watching her kids, and cleaning the house, cooking, driving to my sisters practices etc. all while she is a stay at home mom. she makes comments like these all the time.
she treats people like s*** and denies the fact that she's rude and unproductive. every time this happens ( so about 3-4 times a day) i remind myself that i have a lease signed for next school year and i wont have to be around the negativity everyday.
im glad to help, but obviously have limitations and would appreciate some respect and understanding since i basically have to do her job for her or the house would be gross. i also have ocd and the stress and emotional atmosphere is realllly aggravating it.
im usually pretty under control, but now im organizing tupperware according to size and shape and flip out when someone messes it up, skin picking, and showering twice a day. i usually have everything under control to where im only a little over-hygenic and it's not even really an issue
i just needed to tell someone whats going on. i honestly think i need to find a way to focus on my health for a little, or making an effort to have a peaceful time of day or something
keep in mind, im taking 17 credit hours, working, watching her kids, and cleaning the house, cooking, driving to my sisters practices etc. all while she is a stay at home mom. she makes comments like these all the time.
she treats people like s*** and denies the fact that she's rude and unproductive. every time this happens ( so about 3-4 times a day) i remind myself that i have a lease signed for next school year and i wont have to be around the negativity everyday.
im glad to help, but obviously have limitations and would appreciate some respect and understanding since i basically have to do her job for her or the house would be gross. i also have ocd and the stress and emotional atmosphere is realllly aggravating it.
im usually pretty under control, but now im organizing tupperware according to size and shape and flip out when someone messes it up, skin picking, and showering twice a day. i usually have everything under control to where im only a little over-hygenic and it's not even really an issue
i just needed to tell someone whats going on. i honestly think i need to find a way to focus on my health for a little, or making an effort to have a peaceful time of day or something
Good luck and stay focused on taking care of yourself.
Soon you will be moving out then she will be alone to do what you do. How exciting for her. Just think you will be able to line up your Tupperware and no one but you will mess it up. :)
Don't let your mother ruin your day , you are the wiser person. Smile and be excited to start packing your boxes. Good luck!
I can sort of relate to what you are going thru. When I was first dx I didn't understand (still don't) MS, was scared, angry, etc. All I wanted was for someone to listen to me, let me cry, scream, yell, say why, ask a million questions and so on.
So I call my mom. I knew she didn't have answers nor did I expect to get any and I didn't. But what I did get after telling her what I was experiencing and going thru was "yeah well that's not bad, I went to the doctor today and they said I had high blood pressure" really mom? Really?!? I just told you that the doctors think I may have cancer on the brain and I have a non cureable disease and all you can say is "that's not bad"
I just wanted to come thru the phone. I told my aunt about it a few days later (her sister) and all she could say was "your mom doesn't know anything about MS, so all this is new to her to" WTF?!?
So I guess what I am trying to say is a lot of people only think about their self and don't think anyone else can have bad days or. It feel so good sometimes. It's sad that a lot of the times it's the people that are the closes or the ones that mean the most to us that feel this way.
I hope your week does get better. Although we may only be here via computer, please remember we are here for you anytime you need to vent. We won't turn our shoulder nor tell you your lazy.
Christysms