That's a difficult situation.. Is there any way to find a middle ground with your father? Maybe stay but not have the BF move in? I mean, if you're already not doing great (temp disability) then anything that eases your stress is key. If you do decide to move out, just make sure you have a long and thorough conversation with your BF to make sure that you are both on the same page.

Make sure you're putting your health first when making your decision.

I hope it works out for the best!

Technically it was my apt I am a tenant n my bf has been living with me for over a year..I see where my dad is coming from I really do n he is right..prob is my dad wants to know that he is responsibleand is able to provide security n is not lazy etc..I know my bf is not of the caliber he wants..(call it reformed ghetto) so my bf is trying n has been..if I wanted to get wit a Guy for money I'd look for someone else..yet I still see his point..I just love him so much I think we can make it assuming I don't get worse...uugghh n Bobby awesome advice I didn't know that I could just try to figure suttin out wit the credit cards ima try that...as far as the move the prob is the money for the first month plus security uuuggghhh my head hurts

I rather agree with Bobby. Try to step back for just a moment to think about your Dad's point of view. One lil infringement from your bf, is a red flag for him. Something pretty bad-that's a barricade! Kinda sounds like Pop loves the snot out of you, therefore only Prince Charming will do! You are your fathers child, and it sounds like he may have a hard time removing the fact that he is no longer your Primary Protector.
You are not a child anymore. It is not a case of you against Dad to get out of the house. When we want to be treated like adults in making decisions, then we must behave as adults. Having clear and concise conversations. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Help him have confidence in the fact that you know what you want and how to get it. And remember, that 'Parenting Learning Curve" never ends. We are all still learning how to parent, even when our precious bundles of joy, to whom we have given our life circle, really dont need us as they used too. Somewhere in there, we as the parents have to realize our children have their own path to walk, with out holding our hand.
I hope you can approach your Dad, not defending anything. But instilling confidence that you know who you are, what you want, and how you are going to achieve it.

One the other hand, if you have a monkey on your back, cuz somewhere deep down you really kinda know that what your Dad is saying is true----Then Girl!! Dont you settle for a broken situation!!

I'd stick with family over anyone else, but I know it's not always a simple choice to make. Yesterday I saw you posted that you and your BF were just about to break up though? (last post here: http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Multiple_Sclerosis_MS/forum/11907510-bbbboorreedd) So maybe your dad is right?

Either way, good luck.

hi! I have a few thoughts, when you r frustrated with ur bf, don't vent with ur dad nemore. for some reason the negative, or just relationship frustration venting seems to b the only thing people remember. Especialy when its "daddy's lil girl". I'm not saying don't talk about stuff with him nemore just don't b neg about the bf. if he still has concerns then maybe he sees sumthin u don't.
I noticed also that u r really fretting about ur bills,its good 2 b vigitant with the stuff but try not to stress it aint good for the MS.

My bf is just overprotective ..so is my dad..we argue bad but is rare..we left the house and my dad was outside them two got into it about who gives me more stress ..this in itself was stressful on the sidewalk..how ghetto lol Puerto ricans man..we all loud..they kept yelling back n forth bout me n my dad thinks I turned on him..if he didn't love me why argue wit my dad?n not give up?! Ugghh..I hate going against my dad but geez dad lay off!.. n si feel horrible cuz he always supported me just not the way I'd like it to b..

dude, Irish people are just as ghetto beleive me, just throw some whiskey on it. lol They both love you I found that dudes really have a tough time when a female (girlfriend,daughter,sister, cousin.friend)gets MS. Cuz they can't fix it and they want to. Good luck!

Word up everybody got a lil ghetto in them lol..I saw my dad today later on...he looked ssoo sad n hurt it made we wanna cry all he kept saying was I forgot the loyalty of family...I have no where forgot loyalty!!!!!! Dammit I love my retarded half ghetto asses of a family but when my dad first mentioned this too me yesterday I cried like if my boyfriend had died..idk I just love him so much ughh ima big mush..anyway when my bf n me were talked he finally revealedthat he's stressed n worries bout me but he doesn't show it much cuz he had to be strong for the both of us...oh lord I sound like a huge sap but as sweet as that this is that ass told me we are getting fat lol I said whoa whoa son who u calling fat lol if u didn't feel good n couldn't go anywhere ud munch on foods too! He didn't mean much bout it cuz he gained some weight too I told him I like um chunky so chill out lol..

HA! word about the gettin fat. I am always tryin to get my husband to talk to me too but he's "being strong". But I know he's tired when he comes home from work + the MS and the kids I try not to let it boil into him gettin pissed off cuz redheads aren't said to be firey for nothin, even if I know he's just tired yell at me i'm gonna yell too.
I kinda had the opposite my hubby doesn't like my dad, and dad is loud and obnoxious but hey he's my dad. So sorry ur dad just wants to do whatever he can for you but it is a tough decision dad or bf. but a girl stands by her man it aint ez.

Well that a hard one. Your parents not liking your bf well my inlaws don't like me either. Me and my husband have been married for almost six years they completely ignore me and and make me really uncomfortable but hey I love my husband =) so there nothing they can do about. I think they don't like me because I'm sick they probably won't ave grand kids and I can't work. My advice to you would be. Maybe you can still date ur bf but not necessarly move in together unless you can afford and try get get him to get a btter job to be able to support you. Ypour going to need it. With medical bills if you get married. You need insurance and support emotionally and money wise. Just so you can live a less stressful life and not have other issues in the way while your dealing with your disease with MS less is better. 8)

Marissat478 I am so sorry for u. That they treat u poorly cuz u r sick that sux. Hubby needs to stand up for you I think. Ain't noway ANYONE is gonna make my husbands wife feel bad cuz he chose her and she is sick, even if he was an only child. No way, thats crap and I think u should tell him so.
Sounds to me like ricanfemale has 2 many boys that want to take care of her, and Marissat478 needs somemore.