In my house the only one that explores is me. I don't yell at anyone, just yell in general. My husband just listens quietly quietly until I'm done. DO NOT DO WHAAT MY SON DOES -- because he can have a hot temper, like his mom, he complains right back at me. Then it gets ugly.

I am tired of being asked EVERYDAY did you exercise today? That if I exercise a lot, my condition will improve. I understand the thought behind it, and how it will strengthen my body. But, come on, my MS is NEVER going away!

Your Husband is mis-informed. Someone with MS has to be cautious when exercising. It heats up the CNS and can increase symptoms. He needs to talk to a rehab PT .

The key t exercise is to maintain what you have,

He wants you to get better and unfortunately that's not available right now.

Melanie

I can sometimes get upset with people but I don't treat people like crap other than stand up for myself. I am reading the side effects of some of the drugs I take (have you ever looked at the anxiety that Provigil can cause?) and wonder if that is what makes me have to take anti anxiety meds. I don't eat the type of things that cause this type of behavior.

Some of the things he ingests can cause this type of thing.

you might have some wiggle room in the word "excersize" not being explicitly defined? don't ask what he means by excersize, at a later date you can point out it was never agreed upon. for now define excersize is opening & closing your eyelids...Yep you got your excersize in today ;-)

Unfortunately in my little apartment, we ALL yell (I blame it on all of us having a percentage of a particularly argumentative nationality in our blood!). And, well, my husband does occasionally say he thinks I am not exercising enough. My friend who mentions MARATHON runners with MS gets to me! (Implying that if ONE person with MS can run, then obviously I could too!)
I am concerned with 'getting enough exercise' too, but curiously you will not find any definite recommendations anywhere. I do 30 minutes on my (damn) pedals a day, MS modified 'yoga for dummies' every other day at home, and if I have a few days in a row when I don't have to go out (to work etc) I make myself take the 2 flights up to my roof and back down.

Most people don't have helpful coping strategies. Music helps me but I just nearly exploded at a funeral because people can be real assholes. I have to be reminded to take deep breaths and wait before responding. Venting is so helpful. An uneducated public can be a real downer...and so many people think they know how you feel and what you're dealing but they don't... and you have to realized they have no idea about anything, and leave it at that.

I felt guilty and exercised two days ago, and the next day I hurt so bad I thought I would die! He said you can't over do it, if you haven't been exercising, you can't do everything in one day! You need to build up to what you did!

I guess he was right, but Lord I am sore!

Sorry to say that you cannot change someone else's behavior. You can change your attitude toward the behavior, though. If your husband has an explosive temper, I would be worried about that. I know this by experience. It sounds like he has some issues he should probably work out with a professional therapist. People who have anger issues are usually having mental health problems such as bi-polar disorder or depression. I would perhaps suggest he see someone to work out these problems. And for me, arguing does no good with someone who is explosively angry. I would get out or away from him while he is being angry as this sends the message that you will not allow him to act like that around you. If he continues even after you have suggested he seek professional health, it might be a good idea for you to see a counselor who will give you help for coping with his behavior. That is just my opinion, but I have lived with people who have this problem and I realized that I do not have to buy into that kind of behavior from an adult. I hope you can work it out.