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Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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Reason 09/08/2016

I know that this is a controversial topic for people with the disorder, but I have no where else to post this to, and no one in my life I'd like knowing, so please have mercy. I have known my boyfriend has DID or MPD, which ever you call it, for over two years. He started with five personalities, with ages ranging from 8 to 31, but recently our lives had a big upheavel and it was discovered that he had a sixth personality that was dormant for most of his life.That was when it all went wrong.

The personality caused an unbalance in one of his protectors, causing him to lose what made him mentally strong, the only way it was fixed was one of the other personalities "piecing him back together". Its a long story, but even though the protector is back to his normal self, he has become very unstable and it was recently discovered that he's starting to recombine with the original.

There are people out there that would consider this a good thing, a sign of recovery maybe, but to us, and to me, this means the death of a personality that has been keeping the others stable, without him, a lot more things could go wrong.

Over the next few days we will be finding out what happened, and if there's any way to stop the process. Without this personality, my boyfriend will be losing a friend and an advisor, the original will be bombarded with the memories that the protector has been hiding from him, and I will be losing someone I love very much.

I'm sure there are many opinions to be shared, positive or negative, and if anyone has an experiance like this, I'd be more than happy to read about them.

But regardless, thank you for taking the time to read this.

FickleFairy 09/09/2016

When I find myself in times of trouble Mother Mary comes to me speaking words of wisdom, let it be.

FickleFairy 09/14/2016

The thing is, whatever happens in the system is for the good for the system. The system isn't wishy washy, it doesn't change on a whim. It's only after repeated long term trauma and stress does the system change, like an earth quack splitting the earth and slowly moving the tectonic plates. The system changing is an earthquake but it's an earthquack that makes sense. If an alter goes away or dies, it's only because it's the best possible outcome for the whole. What people don't understand is the system is always guaranteed to protect and preserve the life of the person it's there for. It won't hurt you, it won't cause you future problems. Although the idea of a malfunctioning system is provacative and a great story for hollywood and academia, it's not really reality. You can't believe everything you read about di.d. So I told you to let it be because i'm sure it's the best thing. And love is not a reason to want to change someone's defense mechanisms. Love can put a person in danger...there's a longer shelf life without that kind of love. If you really loved them, it wouldn't even matter what alter is there and what alter isn't there.

Darkprince 10/15/2016

This Alter whom needs to Die off or Retreat can they be Helped to return by the Creation of someone new? Forming new Alters is how a System copes with Major Traumas... Sorry for any loss and just trying to Help... I Hope I am not Speaking in total ignorance

Reason 10/15/2016

Thank you for your kind words, I figure I should update this now that everything has settled down.
The integration went as expected, oddly enough the original became very dominant and protective once their personalities blended.
For about five minutes.
Then the protector's memories started resurfacing. The protector was used to his trauma, the original... Not so much.
He was basically completely out of it for an hour, then surprise! The flashbacks and sudden memories forced the protector to resurface. Turns out the protector was sort of going dormant because the original (not the host) was feeling safe for the first time in years, so he wasn't really "gone", just "asleep", until his own memories caused the original to need him again.
Just goes to show you can't always predict how the mind works I suppose.
Thank you to everyone who's posted and read this, it helped a lot to write all this out.

Darkprince 10/16/2016

Glad to Hear this Worked out. Thank you for letting us Know. Smiles.

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