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Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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hopeless25 02/04/2013

My father recently started to call me baby girl and its very triggering but I don't know why :-( my little hates to be called it and she cries when he does or when he's hugging me.. could the words my little speak be true... could my dad be the monster she drew in the picture that scarred her at night? I don't want to believe it or maybe she is just confused .. she's little she could be just confused right? Or do I just not want to believe it.. it got me thinking... is it weird out of four children me being the middle that I'm the only one who didn't go to day care.. I got to watch ,y brother and sister leave for school while I stayed home with daddy .. is that weird? Idk what to do I just want lil-kiki to stop crying ...help

tyzz27 02/05/2013

My prayers and thoughts are with you and lil-kiki. Unfortunately while it may or may not be true something is definitely triggering your little. As sad as it is it is not unheard of for only one child within the family to be the victim of a monster parent. Fortunately my parents were good. But I was the only victim within my family as my siblings had kids within their age to play within within the neighboiurhood but the neighbourhood adult monsters knew how to seclude me and make me their victim for several years and terrorise me to make sure I didnt tell anyone. It sounds like you will need to try and comfort lil-kiki so you can try and have a good talk with her to get some answers.

john12as 02/05/2013

I agree with tyzz, sometimes we need to have painful conversations with littles in order to understand and heal.
I learned that giving our little a voice is validating and affirming. What child doesn't want to be validated and affirmed?
Learning how to have constructive dialogues can take time and there are different strategies for this.
I hope you can find a path to communication and healing.

hopeless25 02/05/2013

Thanks guys I'm scarred I don't know how to approach her and this situation... the worst feeling in the world is not being believed by the people who are suppose to so I will try.., just don't know how to approach it

john12as 02/05/2013

as i child i didn't know how to communicate , especially how i was feeling.

sometimes creating a story a child can communicate, and using stuffed animals to play the parts in the story is also very powerful way to get the child a way to communicate in a way they can understand

tyzz27 02/05/2013

Yeah you always see child psych using stuffed animals. Perhaps lil-kiki could be given a special present such as a new pkt of penci/s/textas and noone can use these until she has drawn a picture. Get her to encourage her to draw whatever she likes and maybe encourage her to draw a picture of what life is like for her. What makes her happy/sad? scared/excited? Just keep reassuring her that whatever she tells you or shows you that you wont be scared by it and that you will ALWAYS believe her.

stephanietram 02/06/2013

Hi Hope. I would definitely find someone to help you with this. It sounds like some difficult information is making its way into your consciousness, and no matter who the monster turns out to be, you will want someone who can be supportive and has experience helping trauma victims heal. So sorry.

hopeless25 02/07/2013

Thanks you guys and the drawling is a really good idea.. she loves to draw I just have to ask her .. I know I need to talk to someone I just fear they won't understand me

ScaredandScarred 02/08/2013

Drawing is a super idea, and whilst the conversation will be hard maybe it is something that needs to happen to allow you and her some healing
Thinking of you x

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