What happened?

It's hard to accept what they tell us, but I have not known my kids to lie.
Tell her you are not ready to accept it yet, but that you love her.

If she's telling you what happened to her then she needs you to believe her. You all will never heal unless you believe and support your alters - especially the littlest ones. When you discount her, then you are doing to her what her abusers did. Please believe her. If it's too hard to take then tell her that, tell her her story is too hard for you, but you believe her. Tell her she will have to wait until you heal enough to take more. This is what I did. However I then ignored her for close to a year and she had to really wreck my life with flashbacks before I would attend to her. This such a hard process to heal but you are brave and strong. Just reach out when you need.

The monster wach me sleep I get truble I bad girl nitmare I wet bed daddy get mad I bad girl

You're a good girl it's ok, accidents happen.

hylie is right ...
accidents do happen, and if one does it doesn't make you a bad girl cos you aren't - hylie is also right about ths - yo are a good girl

Monster hut me I no lik monster he stnk

i'm so sorry little one, that the monster hurts you
that's not fair

thax i tri be good gir

So many things have happened to the littlest of us. We didn't understand it. It hurt. We often don't understand that it is over, and that we are the ones who were good, but the monsters were bad and tried to blame us. Compassion is so important for these littles.

I borrowed some books from the library for our littles, on stayiing safe from bad touches and stuff like that. When they got the idea that they had permission to tell, it was a huge breakthrough for us all.

Permission to tell, and assurance that you will be believed is so important. Even if the details are fuzzy, let them come. Obviously it was not a monster as a child imagines it, but what was done was monsterous and that is the best way a child could make sense of it.

Hoping your healing continues.

Thank you steph, i know my little is crying out to us and wants us to listen and is still afraid.. I'm just afraid to face what she was afraid of.i guess like i dont want to believe the truth and i think i kno who the monster is...i want to comfort her and tell her that the monster wont hurt her but idk about listening to details :-/ i guess i need to face my past in order to heal right ?

if you have a person who can be with you while you explore this new knowledge they can provide comfort and a shoulder to cry on.